wedding attendant alternative. . .?

Does your daughter WANT them to participate? Assuming she does, poems and readings are almost all there is. But, you can make their *performance* something special. Maybe they can create a reading or small skit to perform during the reception. Do they sing? What about lighting the individual candles at the beginning of the ceremony?

Here's a new take on the traditional guest book: the sibs could be in charge of greeting everyone as they enter the reception and taking a poloroid picture to put in a scrapbook. Then they can pass the book around at the reception so the guests can write something to the newlyweds.

Does she have a ring bearer or flower person yet? Can teo of the children bring the candles to the alter? Who is going to hold the bride's bouquet during the ceremony or when she puts a ring on? How about Junior bridesmaid and Junior groomsmen? Ushers anyone. My brother escorted our grandmother for the ceremony.

Have the siblings light some candles where the ceremony is going to take place. (not the unity candles, just candles that are there for decoration) Then if you are having programs...put in there "Lighting of the Candles"-Siblings Names.....Or something

we're not having the traditional wedding party either, but we're finding other ways to include our siblings. one of my sisters will be our officiant (she got ordained just to marry us), my other sister will sing a song, his brother will be playing acoustic guitar for my entrance. he also has two little sisters and we're not quite sure what they're going to do yet, they're pretty young so we may make them guestbook attendants.

by them just being there and sharing the moment that the couple joins their life forever should be special enough in an intimate ceremony . . .

Help with guest book, designated to hand out programs, read a poem/scripture?

just let them help with the planning, and at the reception, let them sit at the head table. does anyone sing? thats an idea. if you have younger people you want to include let them pass out flowers to the ladies.