After you've had a conversation that hasn't gone well...?

Of course I know this situation, I am sitting around, am wondering what has happened, what I should have done... what has gone wrong... sometimes stupid to be that thoughtful, isn't it?!

That use to be me until i finally got it through my thick skull that i couldn't change what was said and learned to relax. I guess you have to learn to worry about things that are in your control and the past is not one of them. All you can hope for is the next time you talk to that person is that you keep in mind those mistakes and just not do them again.

I usually take out my happy notebook if i feel really bad. What that is is my notebook i have written all my good traits, happy memories, dreams of things to do and goals and achievments and i go over them instead of dwelling on a setback

I do have the tendency to do that too, but I try to be constructive about it. To consider why I said the things I regretted, and if it is important enough to apologize to the person when I see them again. I think the lesson is to recognize how you were feeling and what you were responding to, so that you can understand yourself better, rather than just dwell on how stupid you are, accept your mistake and learn from it.

I can't obsess. Unless you take it back and correct it the minute it comes out of your mouth, it is too late to fix it! What is said is said. If you apologize, you will be forgiven or not! If I am sincerely sorry that I said something wrong and beg for forgiveness, it is in the other person's court and out of my hands! There is no point in wasting precious time in obsession!

I replay it once or twice in my head, then if I find fault with something I said I go and apoligize. If there is something I didnt understand or misunderstood, I say so. If I feel I am right, I just let it go - no point in staying angry really.

Of course! I think and then go to sleep. When I wake up I know if I was wrong or if theres a way to resolve it. I'll talk to him or her about both sides and what we could both do. It always works.

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