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Impact
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Impact asked in Social ScienceSociology · 1 decade ago

Which would you rather be, feared or loved?

I would rather be feared.Love tends to fade.When I say feared,I don't mean being a bully or being mean towards people.To be feared would make people more cautious about how they approch you.

Update:

My question excludes family and lover.This would be aimed at friends and people you might meet in the future.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It is always better to be loved. When your are loved, you are also respected and people will go out of their way to help you and see you succeed. When they fear you, the will only help you until that fear is gone or they have found a way to defeat you.

  • 1 decade ago

    There has to be an equilibrium here because if one side is greater than the other; it creates an unbalance. Just like the natives in the jungle of Africa where they only feared their god and brought an improper life-style. I wonder if it works the same way if love is one-sided?

  • 1 decade ago

    Loved

  • 1 decade ago

    Most people's first impression of me is that I am cold. Which means that I'm "feared".

    As ironic as this might sound, I'd rather be loved. Being feared meant that I am constantly misunderstood. And that feeling of isolation ain't no fun.

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    5 years ago

    I honestly have continuously favored to be enjoyed than feared even nevertheless i replaced into continuously perceived any different way around. i mandatory somebody to love me and to settle for me as me, to help me discover my before, and to be me. i'm enjoyed quite than feared now through fact there is extra of me to permit loose. even nevertheless there isn't something incorrect with the two one - being enjoyed or being feared. a lot of people think of that if their enjoyed, their seen as comfortable and not reliable yet love helps you to be comfortable and strong; love provides a individual potential and provides nurturing you are able to wish at cases. people think of that while you're feared, there is something you're hiding & retaining and your shield is often up and the two those issues are real. there is something you're able to guard; a individual needs to guard the discomfort their blunders or somebody else's blunders have made on your existence and you're able to save your shield up so people does not see you interior the incorrect easy. i might say i'm the two and it is in simple terms who i'm and that i like it like that.

  • 1 decade ago

    LoL is close. Love and fear are one and the same. To love is is to fear. When experiencing love there are many mixed anxieties happening. The most is fear, fear of losing the love. They can't be separated. Thus, one cannot exist without the other.

  • 1 decade ago

    True love does not fade. The way you used "loved" sounds like a popularity sort of thing, and yes, that will fade.

    If you are feared, you will be isolated and alone.

  • 1 decade ago

    I prefers to be loved by others than to be feared. If people have to approach me more cautiously, then not many people will approach me. It sounds like a lonely life

  • 1 decade ago

    I am feared and loved by different people. I much prefer love, even if it is not always muchy, gushy. To be feared creates distance and love creates closeness.

  • 1 decade ago

    Loved...who says it has to fade? This kind of love could be an eternal one.

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