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We get so many questions about orgasm, I will try to provide some information about the BIG O.

An orgasm is described as a level of sexual arousal that reaches a peak then subsides leaving the participant feeling elated, relaxed and sexually satisfied. It is difficult to describe an orgasm because it is different for every female. Women generally describe it as a feeling of being so aroused that you are going to explode.

Muscles in your body may go into contraction, your hands tighten up, you may arch your back, your facial expression is intense, your breathing pattern changes to short gasps, your legs tremble, your toes curl under. You may make groaning noises, whimper, some women cry out. Because the sensations are so intense and so different for each woman, it like trying to describe a sneeze.

Are all women capable or reaching orgasm? Yes, unless there is some rare congenital abnormality or extensive genital surgery where nerves have been cut. Some women who have had a stroke can still reach orgasm. Women who are Spinal Cord injured and are paraplegic or quadraplegic will probably not have a genital orgasm but can reach orgasm by stimulating other areas of their bodies. Some women who have severe diabetes may not reach orgasm because of nerve degeneration.

Some women have lovely small ripple orgasms, others have massive orgasms. There are women who have one orgasm after the other as long as the stimulation continues; for others, one is quite enough for them. There is no normal, all are unique. A few women may have singleton orgasms with one partner and multiple orgasms with another partner. Some women experience a headache after orgasm; some start to cry and some start to laugh; this is simply a release of pent-up sexual tension. These reactions quickly pass and you bathe in the afterglow. Be honest about it. Every once in a while, you will have a cataclysmic orgasm. He will know it – he'll have the bruises to show for it. There are no rules when it comes to orgasms.

It is a myth that a female should have an orgasm every time she has sex. There are times when it just will not happen, if she feels fat or ugly, afraid that she might get pregnant or a disease, she may be tired, stressed, angry at her partner, preoccupied with family or finances etc. She may be uncomfortable, even in pain.

There will be times when all systems are GO and she does not have an orgasm. The sex was good, she is fine, satisfied, happy and contented. She was very aroused then just slid over the top and into the "refractory period" but she is still purring.

Here is where your partner enters the scene. Do not ask "DIDJA COME?" This puts pressure on her to have an orgasm to convince you that you are a good lover and capable of satisfying her. She may be tempted to fake orgasm just to have you believe that you are that good. Faking orgasm is destructive to a relationship that is based on honesty and trust. If your partner is dishonest, the trust level is shattered and that can be very damaging to a relationship.

Ladies, be honest, "No, I didn't have an orgasm but you are great, I feel wonderful, WOW, you are da man." Guys, accept that.

HOW TO HAVE AN ORGASM for FEMALES

Most women reach their first orgasm all by themselves. Few things you have to do before you begin. First, you have to:

1. Become comfortable with your own body.

2. Look at the messages you got as a kid about "self pleasuring"(masturbation). Bad, dirty, dangerous?

3. Give yourself permission to fantasize about sex. Read a sexy novel, romance pocket book, allow yourself to get turned on. You can't masturbate without fantasy. Read our web site on female masturbation.

4. Give yourself permission to stimulate yourself, Learn what pleasures you, all by yourself.

5. Share that information with your partner, guide your partner so he can make the moves that are pleasurable for you.

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I got that off talksexwithsue.com here is a thing callled:

The G spot here is some information on that it should help you u reach orgasm as well:

We have both ends of the spectrum here - couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive G Spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee'd the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom!

Anatomically, the G Spot cannot be found as such; it is believed to be a small spongy pad that wraps around the urethra. If that pad is stimulated through the vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can be very exciting.

The G Spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom.

During G Spot orgasm, a large amount of fluid may suddenly gush out through the urethra. It is difficult to estimate how much fluid is expelled. I have heard amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts. The G Spot fluid is colourless, (urine is yellow), it smells sweet like clover, (urine smells like urine), it does not stain the mattress, (urine certainly does).

Every woman who has experienced G Spot orgasm has a different way of getting there. But there is a common thread through their stories. Usually it happens when:

- she is in a high trust relationship where she does not worry what she looks like, sounds like or smells like; she is confident.

- she is very, very sexually aroused. She has possibly had one or more orgasms just prior to reaching G Spot orgasm.

- she reaches a certain point and she just has to push down.

- she can feel the fluid spurting out and it feels wonderful.

- after that orgasm, women will tell you they feel completely depleted, they can hardly walk to the bathroom.

- it the best sex possible.

Some women say they have easy G Spot orgasms with one partner and unable to get there with another. Some women are able to stimulate themselves to G Spot orgasms, others just can't.

Some women get tired of having a perpetually wet bed, so they take a green garbage bag, cut up one side and across the top. Open it up, then take a flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin it to all four corners of the garbage bag. Then roll this up lengthwise and put it just under her side of the bed, within easy reach. Then if she decided that "tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna stop me now", she reaches under the bed, rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her partner knows what that means, and away they go.

Take the pressure off yourself. Some females ejaculate on a regular basis, some can make it happen, for others it is an amazing accident, and some women just do not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and enjoyable and satisfying if you do or don't hit that elusive G spot.

hope that helps

First of all, relax. It can be difficult for most women. You have to learn about your body, what you like, what you don't. Experiment. Don't be afraid to play, alone and together. Lastly, if you're not having fun, you're with the wrong partner. Sex is a joy, not a chore. Take time to make it fun, and you may just surprise yourself. Find out what makes you happy and then figure out how translates in couple-time.

Skip the pornos-they make me cry, but it's probably just because I'm laughing too hard...LOL But do take some time to check out some of the adult toy websites. mypleasure.com has a lot more than toys.

Finally, if you try a little variety, a few toys, experimentation, and nothing is working, you may decide to seek a therapist, or check with your obgyn. There could be a physical issue (and sometimes, it's good to have a thorough exam before you get things rolling anyway.) Good luck!

You could just be with the wrong partner. Or it could be something else. Perhaps you have a " hooded clitoris" Women that have this find it very difficult to acheive orgasms during normal intercourse. This condition is only a little extra skin covering the clitorial area, it keeps the clitoris from feeling the friction from intercourse. Could be alot of things , these are only two possible reasons. Good luck to ya.

I cannot help you because I have been having sex for 15 years now. And yes, it has been with more than one person and I still have not been able to achieve an orgasm during sex. I can have one fine...with my own stimulation but it is impossible for a man to do it for me. I have tried to show him what to do, etc. but I just cannot make it happen. I know that this probably does not make you feel any better, but just to let you know that you are not alone in this.

maybe you should try masturbating to get the feel of your body and that position that will enhance your orgasm. Also, purchase a vibrator , use it when you are alone and when you are with your partner. Place it on your clitoris when you are having intercourse or during foreplay. Try it out, relax and reach your climax.

It is impossible to get an orgasm through intercourse only through clitoral stimulation. Its just the weird way we are made!

your partner cant be hitting the right spot 4 u he has to be doing it right or it could be a combonation of not relaxing i myself have had the same prob so take it from somebody who knows

try foreplay before sex or a stimulation cream that helps with orgasm.

Talk to your partner, and try different positions until you find one that works for you.

Get a Vibrator and experiment