My husband claims to have poor libido due to his anti-anxiety medication, But I caught him looking at porn.?

He is probably just trying to start his motor....

I took meds for depression and it became so bad that I couldn't even get off masturbating, so I empathize with your hubby.

You should lighten up about the porn... he looks at it ,so what? Men are visual they need that...Women we fantasize. Our hubbies can't stop us, why should we stop them from their 'visually supported' fantasies?

Tell him to change his meds. And if he gets turned on from the porn use it to your pleasure.

You say he has never climaxed with you, so I assume he can perform but can't finish. My boyfriend and I are both taking Paxil, and my doctor told me that one side effect is difficulty reaching orgasm. My bf does have difficulty about half the time. He has no problem getting it up and keeping it up, but sometimes he just can't climax. It has not affected me in that way. Medications affect different people in different ways. Maybe he can ask the doc for a different medication. Another thing he can try...... if he only takes it once a day.... if my bf was going to come over and see me in the evening, he delayed taking the pill till that night after he left, or if he was coming over in the morning, waited until he left to take it. If he didn't have that day's dose in him, he had an easier time climaxing. If you walk in and see him looking at porn and he is aroused, then take advantage of it. Seduce him then and there. If he refuses, you may have other problems other than just his libido.

The anti anxiety medications can effect a male differently than it does a female. Some men can't get or maintain an erection with certain medications. Maybe he needs more direct stimulation to maintain an erection than what he can get with conventional sex. You might address the problem and have him tell his doctor what effects the medication are having on his sex life. The doctor might be able to prescribe a different medication that will not interfere with his erections. I was on anti anxiety meds and it made the 'ol slonger droop. after talking to the doc, he changed the prescription and everything's ok now......good luck, sometimes you have to try a few other meds to see what works for you.

Your husband may be trying to get worked up by watching the porn, or maybe the anti anxiety med really does affect him as all people are affected differently by even the same drugs. It is also possible that he is a sex/porn addict and after fulfilling his urges with the porn he feels so guilty and ashamed that he is unable or scared to share sex with you. Was he ever molested or raped?

You have made this about you. I'm betting he is not try to shun you. Those meds can cause issues like you have described. Trust me, using his hand is more effective and more likely to result in a climax because he can control what he's feeling. Even then it can take a really long time to finish up. Ask him to do those types of things with you involved. Be patient.

I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway

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Watching isn't doing. I am not trying to excuse his behaviour, I happen to think it is wrong. But just because he can't do, doesn't mean he is not interested. The good thing about this for him is that the performance goes on without him having to do anything. There are no expectations made of him. When he is with you he feels he should please you better than he does. It's really hard for you to make that feeling inside him go away.

I know this is difficult to work with, but I am just hoping to give you a little insight. I hope it benefits you somehow.

All the very best to you.

Teef is right watching isn't doing and just because he can't do it doesn't mean he has completely lost interest. What you two should be doing is talking to his Dr to see if the dosage of his meds needs adjusting or if there is another anti anxiety drug that might not cause this problem for him.

You might be over reacting - or he's Gay. He might be feeling really bad about it - so though that looking at a little porn might having a quick w.ank - just to check if the dam thing still works!

Did he have a woody? was he masturbating? or was he trying to wake johnny one eye up? get him some Viagra and he will not have any reason to say no to you. P.S. most men have or do watch porn now and then its not like he's cheating on you. try watching it with him and pointing out things you would like to try with him in bed, (or on the floor, in the kitchen, outside in the backyard, living room with window open. etc. have fun with it.