Why do sometimes, people primarily look for shallow characteristics while dating?

THAT'S AN EXCELLENT QUESTION.

But sex is anything BUT "shallow".

Sex is how people are BORN. And sex (or the desire to MATE) is based on ATTRACTION which few people really understand . . . .it's a very DEEP issue, actually, and at the core of MANY misunderstandings and confusion out there.

Sex is NOT 'eternally unsatisfying'. In fact, its one of the greatest human pleasures in life. . . and perhaps the only true natural instincts that humans still possess in civilized society.

Money does not equal shallow either. Because money affords people CHOICES. It's not MONEY that makes people "rich" . . it's CHOICES. People who don't have CHOICES are -->> STUCK.

So sex and money are not as 'shallow' as you might think.

>> instead of humor, respect, humility, generosity, ambition, etc <<

That's where your question becomes interesting.

Because -->> NONE of those are ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL IN HUMAN SURVIVAL.

Sex and money ARE.

Think about it.

Humans cannot survive without either.

And so "humor, respect, humility, generosity, ambition" etc. - while all seemingly very "noble" - are not at the forefront of everyone's CORE SURVIVAL.

They are merely ENHANCEMENTS to your existence.

They are not ESSENTIAL to your existence.

BUT SEX AND MONEY -->> ARE.

Fascinating, wouldn't you say???

No. It's deffinitely not something alot of people would WANT to agree with , admit to , or believe. Because people seldom appreciate the TRUTH . . . and they certainly don't like to hear it.

But without sex and money . .

humans can't survive and continue.

It's the way the world IS.

Those two things reduce EVERYTHING down to one simple FACT. . . and it fully explains why SO MANY people are after Sex and Money before all else.

:)

What you call shallow is fairly important, involving survival and procreation. These are basic considerations, but they're hardly shallow. As for the rest, this is largely (but not exclusively) a matter of upbringing. This is why children brought up around domestic abuse tend to get involved in abusive situations. People may not regard nor even understand positive qualities if they weren't raised around them.

I think it takes a shallow person to look for shallow traits in their mates.

because their shallow, and haven't figured out what's really important. sometimes you learn the hard way.

materialistic urges... that will be satisfied in the here and now... not the long term goals that they will look for when they mature.

thats there own problems... people have to stop looking at the negatives and stop picking at the positives.... start looking at people for who they are.....

sex and money..you just answered your own question.ha!

I do not know.. But I think it's so stupid.