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Online friend wants to meet me, I'm not so sure...?
For the last couple of years I've been chatting/ emailing/ talking on the phone to a woman a little older than me. I like her, but I don't feel ready to meet her. She keeps asking me to visit her (she lives in the Mid-West, I live on the East Coast) which I have so far managed to avoid doing. Now she's saying she's seen a great deal on a airfare to me, and is suggesting a weekend this fall.
I would be fine meeting her if she were visiting other friends who lived in the same place as me, or vice versa, but she would be coming specially to meet me. And stay in my house!!!
How do I get out of this? It sounds terrible, but I know that my friendship to her (if you can call it a friendship) means more to her than her friendship does to me. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I recognize that if I do nothing I hurt her even more in the long run. But I feel she is being real pushy, and like I have to say something! How can I tell her in the kindest possible way that I can't?
She certainly doesn't want to hook up with me-- I have fantastic gaydar! ;)
I don't feel like I'm being stalked, or anything. She is a lonely person, and I just don't have the time to dedicate so much emotional energy into our friendship as she needs, esp. at the neglect of my *real* long-term friendships.
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
just say your not comfortable yet with her enough to get face to face and to have her stay in your house
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I think you've gotten a female predator on the internet! You are smart not to feel comfortable about meeting with her. She has a crush on you, and probably wants to hook up. My advice? It's time for you to end the relationship. I wouldn't try to tell her that, as it might make her very angry. Just block her out of all communications. I hope she doesn't know your real name or what your address is.
- 1 decade ago
I think it's time you stop chatting/emailing/talking on the phone with this woman. When she calls don't answer the phone and don't respond to e-mails. If she persists write her an e-mail saying "I'm sorry but I don't want to meet you and I think it's best if we don't stay in contact." If she still e-mails or tries to contact you call the cops, you've asked her to leave you alone politely and she still won't. You might want to change your phone number too, it'll make your life a whole lot easier.
Hope this helps!
~Carolyn
- 1 decade ago
Tell her you're not yet ready to take that step. Tell her your life is unorganized at this moment and that she should wait. Bonne Chance.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
dont dont dont start ignoring her,,,,,,,
help me plz
