About death...?

No. Having someone die changes you in ways sometimes you can't even explain. I do not know you situation nor am I asking. I can only responding based on what has helped me.

Even after 10 years the grief for my father still exists. But most of the time it is in the back of my mind. I still have times when I think I need to tell him this or that & then I remember he is not here to tell. Believe it or not I still sort of "talk" to him. It helps me sometimes.

It took me a long time to stop grieving for my father. What helped me was talking and laughing about the good and fun times with other family members and friends. As time goes by work on remembering what made the person special to you. Try not to spend a lot of time thinking about the situation that caused the death. Yes I know it sounds easier said than done but try it a little.

For example my father had cancer for many years but he did not know it. He only knew he was ill. Once the doctors diagnosed it , he got really bad, really fast. He got sicker and was in and out of the hospital several times. It is still hard to talk about those bad months before he died. But write about it how you feel and your memories. Not just the bad memories of the situation but also the good times.

With this next part I do not mean to sound callous or hard or mean. Remember the person would want you to go on with your life. I don't mean you forget them. Just the opposite. You always take a part of the person with you in your heart and mind.

Example one of the things my dad did before he died was to make sure my mom and I had the house we needed to live in after he died. We had a really large lot of land and could not take care of it without him. It was important to him that the house plans was finalized before he died. He wanted to make sure the new house faced a certain way and was on a certain lot of land. The house was completed the way he wanted. In some ways he knew us better than we knew ourselves. He never got to see the house completed but we feel like he was there watching over us

The reason my mom and I feel this way is because mom nor I ever made coffee at that house. But mom often thought she could smell fresh made coffee in the house. Also dad smoked a nice cherry vanilla special blend pipe tobacco from time to time. Now no body every smoked inside the house. But from time to time mom and I could smell his pipe tobacco in the house. Ok it may sound silly to you but it mattered to us and was and is real to us.

I don't know if any of this will help you but it is how I was able to learn to cope with my dad's death. It just takes time.

Peace

It took me several years to get over my granny. I am still going over my mother's recent passing. It has not been a year yet though. And it feels really strange that she is gone. I have had severe grieving symptoms concerning and because of her death. Sometimes I get to the point where I can't even eat, and I have nightmares and dreams, and it affects other areas of my life too.

One woman I know said "you never get over losing your mother". When I lost my child, I still haven't "gotten over" that, and it's been years ago. Another woman lost her child and it took years for her to really start healing. Some people never "get over" losing someone; it depends on the relationship itself, how you felt about the person, how the death impacted you, and what you are going through now. A history of mental illness can make the grieving so bad that the person may need meds to calm down or to help sleep, and it can also prolong and complicate the grieving porcess. I just don't think I will ever "get over" any of these things, even on meds.

Just give yourself time and patience, take as long as you need, and don't be on anyone else's schedule. And talking to someone who really understands the stage you're at can help too as well as grieving group therapy and qualified counselor who has lost someone too and never fully healed from that. I have heard of when we go through this, it is like we have to go through a new or different kind of normal, and things will never be the same again.

Absolutely not.

I do not know of anyone who has ever "Gotten over" a loved ones death. Eventually, you learn to accept it.

Many factors go into how long you will grieve. How close you were, age, etc.

My father passed away last November at the age of 47, and it was not expected. Being that I have not lived near my parents for 12 years, I go through bouts of denial, to exteme sadness.

Don't worry about it. There is nothing wrong with you. Give it time. Time heals all wounds.

Dear Miss Brown. It is not weird. Death is something we do not understand. It´s having someone next to you one day and then gone the next day. The best thing you can do it´s to see death not as an end but as a start of a new life. We do not know what is next after death. Maybe there is reincarnation: maybe we will gather with loved ones in another life. Maybe there is a heaven in which we will gather again. Keep yourself busy with your work or hobbie. I lost my sister when I was 14 years old.

No, in no way is that wierd, you where obviously very close to them! In a way you will probably grieve for the rest of your life but in your own special way, try and do things that can remind you of happy times with this person and talking about them can help too! If your feeling down about it then try and find someone to talk to about it, get all your feelings out there, that wil help too!

Good luck, and remember its perfectly normal to greive for as long as you want!

I don't think you ever get over it. You learn to live with the loss, and work through the pain. I lost my mom 12 years ago, I was 24, I was with her when she passed. I still hurt and miss her, but it's not intense like it was at first. I will always miss my mom, I know that. But, I can think of her with a loving smile today, and remember her without crying. When times are tough, it makes me miss her more, but I turn to her for strength now. I"m sorry you're hurting, it's so understandable. God bless.

Not wierd at all. My grama whom I looked up to and loved very much has been gone for almost 8 years now and to this day sometimes when I think of her the pain of losing her is as fresh as it was in the first place. I can tell you though that it does get better and the memories that will linger will be the good ones.

It depends on what you mean by "grieving." Do you think of that person from time to time and feel sad that they're gone? if so, that's not weird at all. If you're thinking of that person constantly and so preoccupied with sadness about their death that it interferes with your daily functioning, that's not normal. I suspect it's the former, in which case you should not worry about it.

no, its not wierd. its perfectly normal. anybody who gets over a death completely in less than a year is not a person who cares that much. it could take years for u to get over it and its still normal. just dont let it take over ur life.

no you never really get over someone close. you just handle it better i guess . i guess the best i can give you is remember the good times you both shared and your loved one would want you to be happy and live life to the fullest