Why do nice girls finish last??

Ahhhh i agree with ya! I think it has a lot to do with the media. I mean come on! What is so sexy about a skeleton with some skin on it? Anyways~ In some countries being bigger is better it shows power and they relate it more towards being a good mate. (having children, good cook, etc.) i don't know....maybe if I could remember the country i would move there! LMAO

And as far as respecting and caring for your body, you can be plus size and care about your body....there are many, many other factors that go into weight, genetics, stress, children, diseases and disorders.

Be confident in who you are no matter what your size, thats what makes women sexy.

That's because they have been program to see just that, your weight. You know the first impression is what people see first, and some men with small minds can't see any further. They stop at your size, without taking the time to know that you are, intelligent,cute,funny and caring. But there is an old saying, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the right guy that can see YOU.. for.. YOU, will be one lucky guy. Keep your head up sweetie, God has hand pick someone special just for you.

If all the men that you've taken an interest in have responded in that way then you're talking to the wrong men! Like prufrock said, there are a lot of guys who like curvy ladies! I'm about 5 '3 and i weigh 155, my boyfriend loves it! I'm a bit more than chunky and does he care? Nope, he wouldn't have it any other way! If you be patient, and you deserve it, then you will get the man you want. If he's patient and he deserves it too, he will get you! I hope everything works out! Don't feel so down, worry about nothing but your life and the people you love that are in it, your time will come! REMEMBER also, confidence is the key thing, if you don't want to lose weight, don't be down about it, be happy and carry yourself like you are proud to be who and what you are! SOMEBODY WILL DEFINETLY NOTICE!

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Kassy

Hey girl, how are you doing? I'm 21 too. As I read your question I couldn't help, but to feel your pain. This may or may not answer your question, but it will surely help. I am an upcoming rapper and my latest song is called Baby Phat. Here is a lil sample of the song:

Hook: Start from the outside and bring it on, it helps if you're thick, but you can do it if you're thin,

Don't get me wrong Imma set the record straight, this is for the girls that done gained a lil weight,

Now move, gone girl show me your thickness,

Now move, gone girl handle your business,

I love who you are, I love where you're at,

Ain't nothing wrong with a lil' Baby Phat

The whole song is an anthem for thick women. It's a motivating song telling us to love ourselves. I'm 4'11 and wear a size 13 in pants. For a long time I was uncomfortable with myself, but once I became comfortable so did the men.

I often feel that nice girls finish last, but now I look at it like this, "They save the best for last." ;-)

If you'd like to get a free copy of the song or if you want the rest of lyrics contact me. Or if you just want to talk please feel free to email me. net30cal@yahoo.com

Not all men like big women. There are men who likes plus size women. I personally don't look at sizes, but I rather stare into a womans eyes and see the person she is.

Your meeting the wrong men.Every man has a preference in women.Some are into plus sized women only and other are into petites only while others prefer women some where in the middle.Nice girls don,t always finish last,that,s a myth.But if we do we smell prettier and look better in that position than the bad girls!

not all men are weightest, you have to wait for the right guy to come along and see the true you. you're probably fed of people telling stuff like that to you, i kinda know, though i have the opposite problem, im too skinny, im a size 0, barely, i eat loads, i just dont put on any weight! guys hate that, especially with all the media about size 0 gals now.

fact: big gals usually have big boobs. lol.

you have to wear the right clothes that suit you and show off your figure. watch a few episodes of trinny ans susannah, i did. (no, i havent started wearing loads of layers) lol.

i hope this helped.

P.s. there are loads of big girls around of the world!

watch this... it should make you feel better...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=tcRiXOONqf0

Just as women focus on PERSONALITY, men focus on LOOKS. Each gender focuses predominately on one facet of the other and for a guy it's how physically attracted they are to a girl.

Going back to historic times, as primitive beings men are PROGRAMMED to spread their seed and be very promiscuous. In doing so, they enjoy their experience through physical stimulation. If a girl doesn't have that, a guy won't waste his time and move on to the next girl that can fulfill his unearthed primal instincts.

First off, looks are not everything. Secondly, there are loads of guys who are madly in love with plus size ladies. Many guys like curvy girls. Besides, there are times you just have to wait. Its really hard to patient. I'm kinda chubby but I have tons of male friends who think I'm hot. Everyone have different tastes so you shouldn't feel lonely. It'll take awhile.

Because guys who only look at whats on the outside, can't handle a girl woman who is intelligent, and knows what she wants. Even when they do fine the "skinny pretty girl" they are looking for, they can't handle whats inside. You will find someone who is worthy of your time. Just keep your head up and pay no attention to idiots, and love will come your way.