Am I wrong?

Can you say "reverted back to the third grade"!!!!!!!! That is so childish and ridiculous it is unimaginable that you even have to deal with this from a grown man!!!

Ignore his childish behavior. Do not react to it, and in turn, let him pick his clothes out, let him do his own dishes and fix his own food. Let him know that if that is how he wants it, then you are happy to accommodate him. Do your things and your sons things, don't make a big deal of it, don't act like you are bothered, and certainly don't feed into the childish behavior of "let's talk about everything you do wrong"~you will have MUCH more effect on him, if you act like NOTHING is wrong, ignore his childish behavior, and carry on with your things. When the discussion ensues regarding the behavior, be sure to listen with an open mind and ears, and allow him to vent or discuss what his {freakin} problem is, and try and discuss it. Allow him the opportunity to rationalize his behavior, however DO NOT stand for the pointing of the finger at you {remind him that there are four fingers pointing right back} for the problems, when he is exhibiting behavior he is in control of. He is an adult and needs to act as such.

You need to figure out what the core of the problem is, and when he is ready to stop acting childish, talk to him. Seek advice or guidance from your pastor or a counselor, and certainly do not minimize your feelings of disdain at his behavior. Speak to someone that can help you decipher why he is behaving this way.

Good LUCK!!!

Your question is: "Am I wrong?".... Do you mean.... Are you wrong about being irritated at this behavior? Who wouldn't be? That is some irritating crap going on there.

Unfortunately, this is just little nitpicky crap. However, this is just the kind of stuff that ruins relationship because it adds up. It also sends an underlying message. The message is disrespect and probably based in something you did to get him all jacked up too!

Yall gotta tell each other what the real problems are. However, you have to use a soft touch when telling each other why you pissed. You also have to use some patience when receiving the info from the other side.

Don't just jump off and go nuts when you hear something you don't like. Otherwise, you'll just shut the other person down and you are right back to playing these stupid games again.

This is the "work" part of a relationship.

These are petty little issues that are going to blow up into big problems.

Sounds to me that he has drawn a line in the sand regarding the household work. I would let this go. Take care of yourself and your son. Do not complain. Let him do his own. I know that this is irritating but would you rather be happy or right?

We separate laundry in our house. I do my own along with the sheets and towels. He does his own and his son. I do not resent it. I love it. It is fair.

These are really small issues. There are so many other things that are so much more important. I think that you need to take some time for you. Get your hair done, get your nails done, take a long bubble bath, read a book. You need to relax a little.

Good Luck and they to get some you time!!!!

Sounds like he needs to have this talk with himself. What grown man does this. Really? I say just let him act like a child if he wants. Just worry about yourself. Wash you and your sons clothes. Pick up after yourself and leave his messes for your son, depending on his age either make him clean up after himself or do it for him. This is the point I would cover my rear and leave him no room to call me out on anything. Seems like he has the problem not you.

OMG, I'm having deja vu. My ex husband used to do the EXACT same thing. I think it stems from the fact that he was a bachelor until age 43. So he was used to taking care of his own personal things, and thought everyone else should too. He would pick through the laundry too, and wash his own dishes but no one else's........sheesh. I agree in theory that we should each pick up after ourselves. But would it KILL you to wash your daughter's pajamas for god's sake?! I don't know what the solution is, because we eventually divorced (for other reasons).

Do it back to him. Only do your laundry and your son's. Throw all of his things on the bathroom floor. ...I think after a few times he will get the hint do you? Also next time he does it you can ask him if he is single or would like to be. Cause you could help him with that....

I believe ya'll should work together, Although it seems ya'll have tried that & it doesn't work out. So all you can do now is go with the way things are now & see how long you can put up with it. It may change, or it may not. It depends on how long this behavior has been going on or if it just started up.

I know how you feel. My husband sometimes gets on those kicks too. Somedays I just never seem to do ANYTHING right. Your going to have those days from time to time, and get really irriated just don't take it to heart. Your husband just sounds like he is pouting and just doing this stuff to spite you because he knows it's irritating you so bad.

I'm not sure what your argument was about but I think he is just trying to get back at you. He sounds like he is acting like a child though but without knowing the full story its hard to know who is right and who is wrong

I would have thrown all of his sh*t in the floor everytime I see it and make him keep picking up the same things until he finally figured out what I was upset about