Trust Issues in a relationship - can it survive?

as a guy who has been lied to and hurt, i know what you are talking about.

yes, it is possible for the guy to learn to trust a new girlfriend again. but, there is a period of not trusting any woman that he goes through. that period could be 1 day. 1 year, or 10 years. there is no way to tell when he will trust again. you just have to do your best and hopes he sees that you are different.

i do not believe you can ever forgive being lied to and get back together with that person, unless you understand the reason for the lying. if she has a good reason, i might forgive, other then that, i do not believe you can ever trust them again.

I think that depends on the people involved and the severity of the lying. I would have a hard time trusting someone if they lied to me and I knew about it. But again, it depends on what it is. If it's "I have a child but I didn't tell you at first because I was afraid you'd reject me", which I've actually dealt with, I was stunned but not upset, and it didn't really break any trust I had with the person. But if it's "I've been calling a phone sex line because you don't satisfy me", that's a bit different.

I've been cheated on by two different guys, and I've never rejected a man because I had been wronged in the past. Each man is different, and I can't judge all of them based on two of them.

For me, I trust them until they give me a reason not to. I think it's only fair. And whether that trust was permanently destroyed would depend on what they were lying about or hiding. (A more specific example would probably help, but I hope my explanation is useful anyway.)

You have to ask yourself if you really want to trust this person again? True trust can take years to build and just seconds to break ... You cant hold it against everybody ... the only person you should hold bitterness towards is the person who did it to you ... Always try to find something positive to take away from a relationship gone bad ... it helps

I think if the 2 people really want it to work out, and really care about each other, then with alot of hard work, then it can end up working out again in the end!

adventure tells me that every time they start up speaking lots approximately another woman, beware! there is something generally occurring between those 2... yet wait! Why do you snoop around your boyfriend's mail and cellular telephone invoice? might you like him to do an identical element for you? i think of you're too possessive, doing that variety of stuff. if it quite is so, no ask your self he's observing somebody else. i are conscious of it hurts, yet you are able to no longer violate his privateness like that.