Abusive Relationships?

In some abusive relationships, the abusive person will give the other one so much trouble, that their self asteem is very low. Thinking they do not deserve any better. Other times, I believe the person getting the abuse thinks they can "fix" everything, only to find out they can't. By the time they realize they cannot "fix" everything, or the other person, they have been in the relationship a long time.

I think you said it in your first sentence. Mentally abusive the hardest to get over. They have "mentally" drained you, and have you believing this is the way your life should be. After they do get away from that person, it is very hard to date again, trust anyone, etc. All they know is how to cope with an abusive person. It's like you are addicted to the abuse, since that is all you know. Maybe you feel sorry for that person, and that is also why it is hard to get over.

Hope this helps some.

It tends to have a stronger effect on you. And maybe when it's over, you think about it constantly because you might be mad at the fact that you stuck with it or around it for as long as you did knowing you deserve and can do way better. Also it's a relationship where if you're serious about it, you dedicate your time to it and it's hard to get over it because you did the best you could and all you got was mistreated. :-( .... You can ask yourself these questions over and over but eventually it fades away within time. Just try not to think of the person. In my case, I would cry every time I heard his name and his name is a common name so I would hear it at least 15 times a day. But there's going to come a point when one day you just don't care anymore. It's realizing you can't spend the rest of your life thinking about this person, knowing on the other side, you're probably not a thought in their mind. So now I still hear the name but it doesn't get to me like it would. Just seriously keep your head up and look forward to the days that are to come. You'll get over it. God Bless and I hope I Helped :-)

Sometimes people are afraid to be alone and therefore stay in a bad relationship. It takes a woman an average of 8 years to get out of an abusive relationship. Alot of abused people think they can fix the abuser and blame themselves for making them mad. The psychological dynamics that occur over time keeps people stuck in this kind of relationship. it is best to get help to work up the courage to just leave.

i was in an abusive relationship for 2years. he said alot of things that hurt me mentally and he even started hitting me after a while and he thought he wasn't doing anything wrong. this kind of relationship can lead to alot of mental issues for the victum. for me it was depression and psd. the best thing you can do is get out of the relationship as fast as you can and my even press charges against him if you think its needed. but i will tell you that a relationship like this is something you will never forget. its been almost 5years since i've even seen the man that abused me but there's not a day that i don't think about it and how lucky i was to get out. hopefully other women out there including yourself will see that you can't change an abuser you can only change yourself. so please get out of the relationship as fast as you can it will prove to be a better life without him. good luck.

most of the time, the abusive person also makes you think you are not worth anything better. so you think it is all you can get, or what you deserve.

you have to be strong enough to combat with abusive people and relationships

Scars heal...memories remain.

It's your self esteem. And sometimes we think we can change it. Bad idea

For me, I loved the person. and it was hard getting over that..

THis basically explains it

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3mvCgt2LT1o

idk but id like to know myself :'(