What do you do when you just co exist?

Every couple goes through periods like this. If you don't have much hope that your relationship won't change, it probably won't.

If you're both committed to making it work, try learning something new together...tennis, dancing, whatever.

What shook us out of our routine was finding a good church. If you're open to that possibility, start shopping around for one.

If you're not sure about a future with him, it's probably best to end the relationship now. Divorce, especially involving kids, is an ugly thing.

Why would you want to "change" just so that you can stay with this guy. Two years is not a long time to date someone. If neither of you are happy and simply "co-existing", then you should move on. Life's too short to be with someone who's not fulfilling you and you're not fulfilling them. I don't know how old you are, but you don't need to stay in this relationship if it's not working (and it's obviously not). And if you don't feel love from each other, you're not going to be able to manufacture it. Trust me, I know, I've been married 34 years and we've never simply coexisted and we've always been in love! That's how it should be.

You should make sure you set aside a special time each week to really spend time together. Go out for a romantic meal or even sit at home and cuddle and talk. It's easy to fall into separate routines and then the passion is gone. Try to put the passion back.

Either get some couples counseling to get the spark back, or go your separate ways so you'll each have the opportunity to meet someone you connect with better.

The best thing to do is to leave, unless this kind of relationship is satisfactory to you.

you both have too eat humble pie;if you wish it too work .sound.s like you should just get ;your coat .