Can you refuse gifts from a friend without being rude?

A friend recently gave me an item that she has had for years and I have made comments saying how much I like the item and have jokingly said that I would like it. We recently had an argument and made up but then she gave me this gift out of the blue. I was shocked and taken aback and did not want to take the gift because I know how much she liked the item and I didn't want the item as a peace offering either. She became angry, told me I was rude, didn't know how to accept gifts from people, selfish, and that I am less than a human being because I don't know how to act with people. I really wasn't trying to be selfish but considerate. I tried to explain to her that I was trying to consider her feelings and not take anything from her but she continued to make these statements. Was I wrong not to take the gift?