I need to but spice in our love life ? Its become a cold bedroom after 29 years of marriage !?

After reading others' answers, I think when you get older, sex just isn't the only answer. Maybe what you need to do is to bring his interests + attention back 1st before adding spices. Do something he like, if he like fishing, go fishing with him and let him teach you. When he see how you are willing to do what he likes, he will do something you like.

Then when you get the chance, surprise him. Maybe go out of town for a couple of nites and color the town. Or take a bubble bath together. Offer him a nice message. Cuddle together somewhere. Try it, it won't hurt. You are never too old to do something romantic.

Greetings and congratulations. 29 years. You obviously have been doing something right. So, if you want to spice things up- go for it. Buy a 5 gallon can of KY jelly. Grease up the parallel bars, mount handlebars on the headboard, and ride. Heck, you guys ARE a success story- do anything you both want. I'm a dirty old man, so I've got suggestions. Be gone when your spouse gets home. Leave a motel key on the table, with a note telling him to join you at an X rated motel. Meet him in a bar- not in your home town. Show up wearing a wig- and pick him up. Play doctor and nurse. Get as crazy as you want. Fill your bath tub with jello. Buy a can of whipped cream. After all you two DO have a license. Your marriage license IS your license to please each other in any way you guys want. I do suggest it's probably best to rule out whips, chains, and most common high explosives. Other than those, let yourselves get as crazy as you please.

29 years?

bring others into the bedroom

Jean, I have to ask you - is it also cold to your husband, or just you?

My wife is going through the same thing with me. I'm 53 and, to tell you the truth, I just don't have the desire to do it much anymore. I still love her dearly, and I love spending time with her, but when I go to bed I want to go to sleep. Period. I try to get her to do it during the day, but she never wants to. She only wants to do it at night after we go to bed. I don't know if this is your problem - just thought I'd give you my perspective.

you don't have to put anything to it just be your self, do the things that you often do to make him happy,cook something different dress something sexy,29 yrs is not that long but sometimes we have to admit that both of you needs to refresh and do something weird just to be different and more exciting try to do thing that you never done to him before, sometimes you have to make some experiment in life, i hope that helps! enjoy life and good luck

Why denied yourself of other sex variety? Today's lifestyles is common. Believe me, we con not keep ourself to stay longer without sex. Why not try opening your sexlife with your husband to considering the idea of swinging, or wife swapping or even threesome.

Someday, many married people will realize this newly popular activitiy by highly socialite married families are double their groups around the the urban community.

Most who answered your question in this forum I know objected on this but favorably, I liked the idea.

In my opinion my friend, if he won't take the initiative to be creative in the bedroom, you need too. If there is a spark there, ignite it. No one here needs to tell you what to do, you are a woman, you know what to do. Use that imagination and find ways to drive him wild. He will respond. I know I would. Good luck to you

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Quite surprising. After 36 years of marriage, our life is bubbling.

wow thats easy! get sex toys or u can also just wear something sexy.. give ur man a lap dance..that can really heat things up and get things started ;) make it a romantic setting and also u guys can fulfill one anothers fantasies. thats sure as hell guna spice things up.. and get u guys going.. good luck!

After 29 years this isn't a question you could ask your s/o?