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Rika asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

Unpopular? Sort of... What can I do to be a better person?

I'm not quiet, I'm (in my opinion) pretty and I'm polite and helpful to everyone I can. I'm in 8th grade and President of NJHS. I love to write and hang out with my two best friends. But what I don't understand is that I'm not exactly.... well known? I think it's my sort of bookworm disposition, but I'm not 'popular'. I know popularity is overrated, but it wouldn't hurt my self-esteem if I knew that a guy had a crush on me or if I had a few more friends.

The popular girls in my grade don't care about school or anything and are always talking and laughing- in class and out. They're surrounded by friends and boyfriends. Why do I get ignored? Mainly because people think I'm too quiet. (Which is a lie! I'm a hard worker) But for some reason I'm unpopular.

Can you please help me figure out what I'm doing wrong? I feel a little bit like I'm on the outside looking in. Why am I so unpopular?

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    I'm like you, people call me stupid because I actually study! (Wow, amazing concept for preps)

    What I recommend is talk about "safe" subjects to people like:

    >did you go 2 the dance?

    >what did you do over the weekend?

    >what class do you have next?

    >what r u doing 4 lunch?

    >what r u doing over the weekend

    No matter what, there will always be an answer for those questions! So you don't feel as stupid and are actually talking to people. Trust me, in English, I actually talk to people I don't know a lot and they actually talk a lot back.

    Also, if you are put in groups then say hi ...... to people who you think could become aquentainces of yours.

    I have like about 5 close friends (people I eat lunch with) and a few kinda friends through out my classes.

    So just try to be out going and if you say something negative about school like (that sub was really mean or I did awful on that test), then people won't think of you as such a bookworm or unpopular.

    I agree, popularity is overrated, but I wouldn't mind getting asked out to a dance sometime this year.

    Hope This Helps!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing. Don't go to another path where you don't pay attention in class just because you want to be with more friends/people. Sometimes, things come at you in surprise and wait for the right moment. Yes, I agree: popularity is overrated. I was once like you, but then I wanted to become popular so I decided to hang out with the wrong group and ended up regretting why I made that choice that day. Don't follow my path. It's okay to not be popular, you could always do other things to help yourself get popular.

  • 1 decade ago

    I suggest a book that I read that can be very helpful for you. Its called How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. It's a wonderful book. It teaches you about everyday conversations and what to say. I know that it's helped me in better understanding myself and other people. Hope it helps you to if you decide to read it.

  • 1 decade ago

    Ahb-viously, u need to step out of ur comfort zone of friends and talk 2 some new people. try being urself, but let people see who u r. that's the way to be truly popular, not just buy having 5 bf's or getting the new prada purse.

    good luck...

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  • 1 decade ago

    You dont need to be popular to be happy, but since you're a quiet person, just talk to more people that you wouldnt call your best friend. being outgoing helps a lot. and dont be clingy. i made that mistake...lol.

    and do i know you? you sound A LOT like some one i know.

  • 1 decade ago

    Forget about them, they will all be loser's any way.Just be the best you ,you can be.You seem to be very smart and smart is better than popularity.Believe it or not the other kids wish that they were only as smart as you are. Have you ever heard the saying "if you got it flaunt it" well you've got brains flaunt them!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    well your not realy doing anything wrong. You just need to be more outgoing and talk to more people. Try talking to 3 new people in each of your classes. Just say hi or what's up? So yeah!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    this is a simple one

    you have to treat everyone the way you would want to be treated and allways ask yourself am i in their shoes right now ?

    you would be amazed as to how many people like to be arround you after that

  • 1 decade ago

    i know this sounds super corny but you should just be super confident! like anything you do just act like you meant for it too happen. and be really nice too! goodluck! hope i helped!

  • 1 decade ago

    um just hang around with them or start a conversation or just do something to get their attention.

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