Am I making myself undesirable on purpose???

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Hey y'all. I'm not clinically depressed, but feel emotionally very tired.
I'm seriously overweight but dress profesionally to keep things straight. 
My colleagues, friends and clients love me, so it's not that. I use my sense of humor as a way to connect with people, which is an asset that has taken me pretty far at work.  THE ISSUE IS.....
I just started getting chatty with this new guy at work, who is a total young hottie, and helps me with things and who makes me feel like a sexy mama the way he looks at me, and does his sexual innuendo jokes with me. When I catch a glimpse of myself in the reflection of the windows or in the restroom, I'm mortified at how f*g huge I am. This guy flirts with me, and looks at me when Im walking away, but I'm starting to think it's because he's just flabbergasted at how so much roly poly can fit into a pair of black pants.
I have big boobs (of course, I'd look ridiculous with small ones) but they are one of the rolls. HELP. What is he thinking?

juanes addicion · Accepted Answer

read low self opinion...BUT...don't look at it like it is an attack..because NONE of us want to attack you.,..but you attack yourself and this is what happens when people see you do this...

think of it like high school or middle school dances and for like 15 minutes you have the girls on one wall and the guys on the other..both incredibly shy and timid and BOTH sides can sense the anxiety in the room...well you need to shed that because people can sense that and you don't want him to sense that from you...that said...the guy is FLIRTING with you...this means he could care less about many things that you are counting as negatives..so let it ride and enjoy the attention ;)

you are attacking yourself rather harshly...fact is..some guys like bigger girls and we don't really care about your body that way...so you need to look at yourself the same way that HE looks at you..

“if you could see the you that i see when i see you seeing me you’d see yourself so different, believe me!”

bebe · Answer

its hard to tell and just to let you know there are a lot of guys out there that like bigger women. not all guys like little tiny girls that have a boys body with no boobs or hips. he probley likes you body and the fact that you have a good personaltiy helps you seem more atractive to him too. you know the saying that the personality can either make a person attractive or not. flirt it up with him and see how he responds if its good i'd ask him out for some drinks after work as a casual thing not a date to "catch up on work" or aka to see if hes into you and you'll know if hes into you. good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Could be that he doesn't care about size?
2. Maybe he likes bigger women?
3. Maybe it's you who see's yourself as bigger than you are?

Big B · Answer

maybe he truly likes you for you. if your not happy with the way you look change it.it is all up to you.good luck

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