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So I may have found the one.......?

I feel what I have never felt b4. We were talking recently about our pasts......I am 28 and she is 25 with a son. We have dated 9 months. I am not a move in kind of guy so I am cool dating only her or taking the next step. (marriage)

She knows about some girls I have been with but has recently asked me for some details. I know she has had sex at least once (1 kid) and I don't know if I want to know more. I want to be honest but what will that do?

ADVICE PLZ!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    whatever you do, make sure you are doing it because it is what YOU want. Just because she has a son doesn't mean she needs you to be a father to him. She is a single mom, but she is still a woman who is still young. She might want to have fun with you and go out and all that, but you dont need to see her as a case or charity. Just be nice to her. If you are out on a date with her why would you treat her any different than any other girl? If you have been intimate with other girls, count your blessings that YOU didn't end up in the same situation. good luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Being honest will do a lot, I would rather for my boyfriend to tell me the whole truth about past lovers and experiences than for him to leave me wondering and sometimes causing arugements and confusion. Before taking a big step like marriage the both of you need to sit down and talk about everything that is on your mind, what you are are wondering about ect.. I wish you and her the best and congrats on finding the one, it is really hard finding the one for you and you seem like a really sweet guy.

  • 1 decade ago

    If your not ready to move in with but taking the next step marriage that's a big step. It;s always better to live with some first cause you don't how there living habits our. As far as the whole girl thing. Depends how she will react i can't really say i'm not her. Either way it can go bad or good tell you tell her.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well before you answer her questions make sure she can handle it. It should be no prob since she's asking the ?'s . I was told don't ask anything that you can't handle. So be sure that she can handle your past. But the past should be the past and she should be looking into the future. My qoute is " you can't change the past but you can choose the type of future you want to live in" and if you're in it then your past shouldn't matter.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well congrats on finding this girl. You might want to ask yourself, if you're not ready or willing to hear about her past, then how ready are you to marry her?

  • 1 decade ago

    Not sure what you mean by details.......why would she be asking....what is she searching for regarding these questions?

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