how do I get over this and not cry?

Awww...five years is too long a time!

Guys in general are not vocal with their feelings. They find it difficult to express their feelings and emotions. One thing he makes a decision but regrets it in the end. In any case, it really is difficult on your part to act as if your break-up is not affecting you considering the fact that you have been together for five years. Not to mention the emotion you two have invested on each other.

If you're concerned about being displaced, consider moving out and get your own apartment. Make yourself pre-occupied with things so you can stop concentrating on him. Go work-out. Attend yoga sessions. I have read answering "sudoku" clears one's mind. Stay positive and always keep in mind that your world doesn't revolve around him alone.

Finally, don't call him. I believe that whoever lets go first will be the first to coem back. I'm positive about it, trust me.

The best thing is to go to him and get all of this off of your shoulder by asking him do he have some one else, and if he says yes let him know how hurt you are, and planed your next move to get out, he the looser and you don't need him five years is a long time to be with someone and he can't come and tell you he has someone else in his life because he is a coward and who want a zero anyway let him go he will miss you, go out and find yourself a hero and love and live for ever.

it's ok to cry, really i know that it is hard trust me I know, try dating a girl for 4 years for her to come home 8 months pregnant with someone elses kid. I think you need to throw him out, seriously. I know this is hard but you need to bring another man home and have the loudest sex you have ever had while he is upstairs, or you could call the police and say he is abusing you,

if you want you can stay with me, i'm no perv and I don't drink, i live about a mile from town and from my college. just till you get yourself together again. if i knew you i would be serious but i know you think that is way weird . i hope things work out for you, i don't know, i know this will sound weird but you seem like a good person, it was just a vibe i got. i'm just your average guy talking.

People change. It will be hard, but you can and will get over this. Give it time. Phone your family and close friends...they will, at least, lend an ear.

aww..thats really sad. i just want you to know that stuff like thats hard..it doesnt matter what anyone else tells you about how to get over it. it will take alot of time. he must be a really bad person. its okay to cry...personally i would cry to make him feel bad about it. i hope things get better.