Ladies, dating advice greatly appreciated.?

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Hi. I recently turned 24 and came to the realization that I've never had a steady girlfriend. I've been on a few dates through high school and college, but can count the number of girls I've kissed or been anything close to physically intimate with on one hand. I went to a military college so I didn't exactly have a lot of options within the student body, and I'm in the military now so I move around a lot and my job is demanding and takes a lot of my time. I am, however, active in my church and frequent clubs and bars with my roomates every week or so.

For some reason, I always end up in the "friend zone" with girls I feel an attraction to, or everything will be going fine for a while until things start to heat up...then she always disappears when I confess my lack of "experience." 

I'm 5' 9", in good shape, make decent wages for someone my age, and planning on going to grad school after my first operational tour, so I feel like I have a few things going for me.

Any advice?

artutina · Accepted Answer

You have a lot to offer from what I'm reading............Always remember to be yourself and the "right" girl will come along.  Those girls that left you were the wrong kind to begin with........... and it was best that it didn't work out for you.  You will know when "the one" shows up.  Don't be afraid to take it slow with a girl. Get to really know her first, have fun and keep the details of what you have discovered in your head.  Take it day by day and don't rush into things too quickly.

? · Answer

MANY people back away from potential good relationships because of fear. go for it. learn from it and know ahead of time not to feel too low if it doesnt happen. if you give it a real shot, maybe it will work out. right from the start tho be YOURSELF and you should know quicker if someone will be a good match for you or not. good luck

Anonymous · Answer

i wish their were more guys like u....for some reason now a days 10 year olds think they need a boy or girlfriend....i think it is ridiculous...teenagers and people in their early 20s need to think about what their gonna do with their lives...not who their gonna date for a week.....anyways find a girl that respects you and ur choses and understands  ur line of work...uve had more important things to do and ur job is important cause u are doing something for the world....find a girl who isnt shallow...cause u definitly sound like a guy that isnt shallow....which is hard to find and a great attribute!!....good luck!!!! :)

julia · Answer

Maybe you just haven't found the right girl yet. Don't worry, and don't rush it. One little thing: don't tell a girl about your lack of experience. What she won't know won't hurt her. Besides, it'll just make you seem naive and inexperienced, of course. =]

Kelsey E · Answer

well i just think you should find somone that fells the same way you do. but i might not be the right time for you to be in a  relationship. but maybe you shouldnt talk about your past incounters and just make new ones

Nehal · Answer

dont try to talk about YOUR experience listen to her more because ladies like it when guys listen to them instead of the guy talking about himself ask her questions about herself and her experience

Annie · Answer

Please do NOT change for any woman! Be yourself! Too bad your too young and I'm married. You seem like a fine young man to me. :-)

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