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I know labels aren't important, but what do you think...?
I am a teenager, so the fact that I am confused about my sexuality will probably not shock anyone. I have tried on a lot of different labels in my mind- straight, bisexual, lesbian- I've even struggled with issues of gender. It's become sort of a hobby by now, and I'm glad that I'm not freaked out by the possibilities. However, sometimes I'd like to get someone else's opinion without giving them possible blackmail information. So, as strangers, if you could give your best guess, I'd be much obliged.
Facts:
I have never kissed a guy or a girl.
I have had crushes on many guys, in real life and in movies/tv. Two have been extremely intense and long-lasting.
I have had crushes on a few girls, mostly in movies/tv but some in real life. None have been intense or long-lasting so far.
I enjoy flirting with girls. I sometimes enjoy flirting with guys, but not when they try to dominate- the power has to be equally distributed or all to me.
I used to be afraid people would think I was a lesbian.
But I'd also be strangely delighted if I thought people had gotten that impression.
I don't like submitting to normal gender roles, where the female is passive (and likes shopping and prom, and is afraid to break a nail or mess up her hair).
I love The L Word, The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love, and other lesbian movies, but also The Princess Bride.
I have fantasized and dreamed about both sexes, usually felt dirty after the dreams but more dirty when they involved women.
I like the idea of being a lesbian at times, then dismiss it by the fact that, "I like guys."
So... yeah, it's complicated. I sometimes feel like I'm pushing myself to be attracted to women because I like the idea of it, but then I remember times when it's happened and I barely noticed what was happening until now (like when I wanted to kiss my best girl friend but restrained myself). I feel complicated, confused, neurotic and brainwashed all at once. What do you guys think? Help me out, here!
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
sounds like you might be bi, if you want a label, lol, just be you ^_^ if the guy crushes are more intense maybe you'll be happier with a guy?
with the details you added, it seems you want someone to tell you its okay to like girls, I don't mean that to sound mean, but sometimes having others accept you makes it easier, as far as gender goes... that is a long and dark road... if you have serious issues with gender identity, look into them but don't rush things...
Theres alot I can say on that issue but the only one who can find answers for you there is you, if you'd like resources on the subject I can look some up for you...
- Desiree MuLv 51 decade ago
Dont pressure yourself. Love the person whoever it is:)
Whether the person is a girl or a guy.Its fine.And dont label yourself.
You will slowly find your true self.
Good luck mate!
Source(s): Shane Jordan - AliBabaLv 61 decade ago
don't be much too concern about labels and more about being a happy, mature you. That's the ticket!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i think you are so far from being gay, i can barely hear you... :) watch out with the flirting , be a teenager.
your add-on?? - well good luck anyway
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- 1 decade ago
You're obviously bisexual, you need to accept it and let people take you for who you are.
