is this fair?

im so sory to hear about this..i also had the same problem at 1 time 2 years ago..and no its not right. if your town is not very big you might want to file a goverment complaint..im not shour how you do it but my mom did it and it worked. i would segjest you get a very good lawyer to help you and your mom.

i hoep it all goes well with you...i know how it feels...il pray 4 you and your mom.

You and your mother need to contact your police department first. This way, they can make a police report AND photograph any bruises.

Secondly, if the judge knows your dad, the judge CANNOT be the presiding judge (unethical). If this does happen, you can have your mother final a complaint against the judge (mom needs proof that your dad knows the judge) and the judge would have to go in front of the board. If determined that the judge knew your dad, it is very possible that the judge could be dismissed or a new court date could be granted with a new judge.

That's 100% unfair. But don't be so sure that he will win . . . despite that the judge might know him, the judge is bound by a code of ethics, and they also usually are very aware of others in the legal community looking at their decisions, appealing them, and generally criticizing them. If you and your mother aren't doing this already, I think you should try and maintain accurate detailed records about what happens and when. The more facts and specifics you have on your side, the better. I know that Children and Youth Services where I live, and the dependent child's advocate attorney have prosecuted attorneys in our town for abuse and have been successful. Good luck.

Life isn't fair, get used to it. There is an old saying "Life is a $hit sandwich, some days you take a bigger bit than others. And the more bread you have the less $hit you eat."

The only thing you can do is to try and take it to the state level and bypass the local guys. Write to state officials, state police and private child abuse organizations for help. Tell them your being abused and explain the facts. Find a church leader for help also, women are less likely to go along with the good old boys.

He has to pay something based on his and your mother's income. Granted he may not pay as much as some normally would but that is why you get a good attorney if needed. The child support office should actually be able to give you a round about figure that he should pay if you can tell them the income of the two. Do whatever it takes, if you make enough of a stink about the situation someone will listen.

It is absolutly not fair, and it is very wrong.The government and child protection programs like this should not have any bias. Your dad and other people in a situation like this shouldn't get away with this. Try and contact the police on this. They should be able to help you out.

Go to court with proof from the insodents and the best of luck to you.

No this isn't fair. I would suggest talking to a lawyer... courts will give you a lawyer even if you can't afford it. I think that might be breaking the law that the judge knows your dad and still has the case.

wow! this is horrible.

yeah! its not that easy to get up and move.A new place, job, people.If you did, and he bothered you there.You'd get a different judge.But, what you really should do is get those picture like some people are telling you, and enforce to you lawyer that your being fiscal abused.Get ahold of a "HOPE" group or look one up close to you! DCFS shouldn't no matter what friends they have protect you, if they aren't going there job.Tell someone at your school, church, anybody who will listen.Horrible what the world is coming too and when you need help nobody is around to help. look it up and find it nearest you and your mom.I am going to look for the card my that I was given, if I can't find it...I will go and get one from the office..But, if your unable to find the # or anything else.I will give you the number close to me and they will help you anyway they can...

E-mail me if you would like that number. :( sorry that your going threw this painful time in your life.Hope god watches over you!

what the heck is the name of your small town.....the DCS is droping the ball. if it is local, try contactacting your county or state offices that oversee the DCS. Make them aware that if other things happen to you ,they are responsible.

It may sound extreme but you and your mom need to move out of smalls vile. Get away form him an a town that would turn its back on one of its children . You can do better.

It is not easy to deal people who has friend in higher places.

My suggestion for you is to seek help with a person who has a power or some connections, who could prove that there are bad things going on. Or, you could also educate the public about your situation through media. Good luck!