Why, How do I know if this will happen or not? 10 points 4 U !!!!!!!?

just tell him what you just said

First of all, no guy waits around to get it. He would just move on and find some if he only intended on getting some. Second, you are worring too much. You aren't jeopardizing the relationship, you are moving it to the next level. If you are both ready, just go for it. Look at this objectivly... your boyfriend cares about you very much and wants to share this with you, but then you ask him if he using you for sex? That would hurt my feelings if I were him. Maybe you should wait a little longer because it sounds like you are on the verge of being ready but aren't quite there yet. You can always do it anytime if you wait but you can't take it back once you've done it. But everyone is scared the first time.

You don't know what will happen. You have to decide whether you want to or not........if you never learn to trust you will never find it. At some point who have to trust a guy, why not him? Talk to him about your concerns, but if you have a good relationship there should be no need. If he has been honest and true while waiting he probably will continue....But if you are insecure, or don't trust him, there could be major issues. SOunds like you are NOT ready for this next step. You should explain that to him and talk more and wait til you are ready and there are no more fears, Tell him you want/need to wait longer and see how it goes. If he really cares, it won;t matter

Well, this is a chance you have to take, nothing is guarantied in this life but i also think that if you two love each other you should just cover your ears to the opinions of the gf's, you and only you know what is best for you, a woman can have a 20 yr marriage stable and solid and one fine day its over, dont go in life waiting for the other shoe to drop, take the chance and good luck to you!

Doing the, well, you know, comes with all kinds of risks. Lots of women make the mistake of thinking sex will seal the deal so to speak. IT DOES NOT. If this man is not your husband, then you can never be absolutley sure how long he'll stay after you begin the physical aspect of your relationship. You can ask all day if he'll leave after you make love, and might tell you what you want to hear, that he'd never do that to you and that he's committed to the relationship. Or, he might leave, honey. You just never know with boyfriends. I hope you enjoy yourself, and I hope you two continue to be in love and stay together.

How long have you been with this guy? Sometimes time is the best answer. Has he been there for you? Does he do things for you? Are the feeling mutual? If you are both mature and know what you want go for it. Just use protection. Keep a condom with you. You sound young, and you should always protect your body and your heart. Make sure this guy is mature too, and explain to him everything you just wrote. If he loves you, he will understand and he will do anything he can to comfort you.

good luck!

If you're both ready then don't stress over it so much. Just trust him. If he really loves you I doubt that he would just leave you after what the both of you have done. I was in this situation once. It was 3 months into our relationship when I thought it was ok to whatever.....I kept asking him.....are you going to leave me? TELL him you don't want him to leave you after you've given it to him.I'm still with the same guy! 4 yrs and 4 months! Not all guys ar jerks.

I think that you and your boyfriend should have a serious talk before you actually do anything. These days, one needs to be extra careful and use protection in order to ensure the health of both individuals.

Personally, and this is my "old fashioned" beliefs, I don't believe that anyone who can't openly discuss sex with their partner should be having sex at all. (And, no offense intended to you, but you do sound young as you've chosen such phrasing as "give it up 2 him" and "... ready to Well, You know.").

Regardless, it would probably be best to have a discussion with him about sex. Hopefully, you've dated him long enough to be able to tell what kind of man he is and thus able to determine whether he would just dump you after sex. (Sadly, there are men like that out there of all ages. But, in defense of the male population, not all men are like that).

Most importantly, use protection!

lots of people think that on there first time, follow your heart, if you love him then go for it, if you want it to happen with him, if you want to spend your life with him then go for it, all you can do is follow your heart, why would he wait so long for you if he didnt like you? he could go out an get someone else. Does he say he loves you? Ask him if he loves you how he feels about this and say your worried hes gonna leave you after this and its making you very nervous

Be totally honest with him. But sometimes guys say whatever to get some but if you've been together for a while he may not leave! Especially if you'd be "well...you know" more often.

Take your time and wait until you are completely comfortable with the idea.

Just tell him what you feel .. bring it up over lunch or something ..

for example : "Baby, i know we both agreed to have sex with each other .. but I don't want you to leave me after the fact. I've seen it happen to a friend and I don't want it to happen to me. I trust you with all my heart, i just want to make sure we are doing this out of love and not just to do it."

say something like that for example .. and just be prepared for the more emotional attraction to each other after having sex .

Be prepared . =]

Good Luck !