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Sex during divorce?

I am in the beginning of a divorce with my wife. It is not bitter and we still both care for each other as people.

I know that she is very lonely, frustrated, and sexually frustrated right now...

This sounds bad, but know that I care deeply for my wife still and am 100% willing to work on our marriage if she would ever give me the chance.

So knowing that, my question is:

How do you attempt to initiate "break up" sex with your wife while starting a divorce?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Are you sure that you want to divorce with your wife?

    from http://www.tips7.net/T113_Tips-for-better-love-rel... i've read :

    "Do the sexual life more often. By doing that, it could recover your emotional feelings and keep your romantic moments. So, you will find the way out of every problem wisely."

    Maybe your wife don't want divorcing..

  • Break-up sex?...Is that like, one for the road? Jeeze, you wanna service your soon to be ex? Boy oh boy.....

    Sounds like you're desperately trying to hang on to the marriage, and you're thinking that if you can get her back into bed then she;ll either stop divorce procedings, or won't be able todivorce you because you two have been intimate.....

    ....if the marriage is over, it's over. Trying to seduce her in order to prevent the divorce from going thru is one big mistake....if she'll even take the bait....it could backfire ya know......just because you think she's lonely, frustrated sexually doesn't mean you can take advantage of her...or that she'll let you.....

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i know how you feel as i am in the same boat. I have made sublte hints to him however he must have some major self control.. He doesn't tell me no he just reminds me that i have :done enough:

    go figure. I know that if the day comes when he wants to reunite i will be willing. I am having a hard time "falling out of love" with him

    Sex will definitly make things more difficult.

    make a choice and stick with it.

    Good luck i don't blame you why add another hole in the knotch

  • 1 decade ago

    Personally, that seems very dishonest to me. Sex in a marriage, even one going through a divorce, is more than just plain sex. If she's lonely and you're lonely, maybe you guys should be working out your difficulties, rather than heading for a divorce. If you're willing to work on your marriage, and she's lonely, I'll bet she might be willing to try and work things out as well. I suggest you guys give marriage counseling a try, or even another shot. Don't give up on marriage so easily.

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  • 1 decade ago

    OK there is a reason that you are getting divorced you shouldn't be having rebound sex with the person your rebounding so I say if you need it go find a one night stand sorry usually I don't answer this childish but that's it

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think, people should understand the meaning of the english words : love - marriage - sex - Divorce - but still care for each other ....

    these are english words are not to be applied for our precious life randomly, as stories in movies ..... better to see not happening such situations ....

    when anyone cannot keep "love" with one then cannot love the second ... and can never get satisfaction in life ....

    try to make things in constructive way, that itself gives great satisfaction in life ....

    if any one feels life is just an entertainment like those english words, it is nothing but wasting our life ....

    repenting is then when one knows the meaning of " repent "

    sorry to say this ...

  • 1 decade ago

    You don't get to. If you really care about her just let her go

    already. This would only drag it out and since you are the

    one who is 100% ready to work on marriage you might

    be the one left hurt after sex.

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  • 1 decade ago

    i have had the ol break up sex with my ex husband....in the end it just mad things worse for the both of us!!! we to were not bitter and remained friends after the divorce. Hell we rode to and from the divorce hearing together and i went a month later to stay with him to see him off when he left for Iraq! I just think it complicates something already complicated!!

  • 1 decade ago

    i'm a divorced women and i know how hard your x-wife feeling right now especially if it's all because of your fault make this happen.

    your decision to make a break-up sex with her, will make a big worst situation to her because she will be feeling like you just want to playing game with her heart and feeling.

    so..better don't and let it be........

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