In your own experiance,doesa person completely recover from a broken heart?

Yes you can heal from a broken heart but if “healing” means completely forgeting about it the answer is no.

When you’re been hurt and disappointed in love, there are a few things you can do to help you heal.

First of all try to understand what happened. There are usually two reasons why a relationship goes wrong.

One is that it just wasn’t meant to be. One of both of you may not have been mature enough to keep it going. In those moments both contributed to the eventual demise. The issue in this case it so try to understand what happened and to learn from it. What did you do to make things worse? If you could do it over, how would you handle it? What did your partner do to make it worse? What could he or she have done to avoid the problems? How did you react to those mistakes? How should you have reacted? If you can find the answers to those questions you have an opportunity to grow and from that you’ll form much better relationships in the future that will endure. This helps the broken heart heal because there is some good that is coming from the experience and you come to experience that it was a mutual problem that brought about the end instead of something that only you did.

The other reason is that feelings weren’t mutual. Perhaps your partner saw you as only a friend while at the same time you were deeply in love. Perhaps you two weren’t as compatible as you thought. That happens far more than we normally like to acknowledge. There are no real lessons to learn from that experience except perhaps a Chinese saying I love. When you love something set it free. If it is yours it will return to you. If it was not yours, it will go away. I love that saying because it’s so very true. We don’t hold on to our partners by chaining them to us, we hold on to them by setting them free and just caring for them so much that we earn their love. Learning this makes it a little easier to heal too. But in this case there is often a different problem, we often feel very rejected and unwanted.

But why should we feel that way? If you go to the store to buy a bar of soap, you’ll see a lot of them on the shelf. You pick one that appeals to you or that you know does a good job and you leave. Those other bars of soap have been rejected. Should they feel sad? No, not at all. They too will eventually be picked up too and in time the shelf will be empty. Others will come along who do appreciate them and who will take them home. So it is with us. We cannot attract and/or hold everyone who strikes our fancy, there are only specific potential partners who feel we are just perfect for them. If you can recognize that principle, it’s easier to heal in part because you’ll realize and understand that there’s nothing really wrong with you and in part because you know someone else will come along who will feel you’re just the one. So there is happiness in your future after all.

But what of the memories? I’ve had a broken heart a few times too and it can really hurt. Just recalling the moments are enough to make you cry. But there’s a cure for that too. Often, when you have a broken heart, let the feelings run their course. If you bottle them up it will simply take you longer to heal. Let them pour out until you have it out of your system. Once that’s over, ever week or two recall the memories but not all at once, just little bits of them. Get used to them, get used to coping with the feelings. If you do that long enough there comes a time when you can recall them all and not hurt any more. It’s like getting used to the water when you go for a swim. Dip in a toe, then a bit more until eventually you’re immersed. Now move around a little and all of a sudden that cold water won’t feel cold any more.

What you can’t do is get rid of the memories. I have many of those and they’ve never gone away, in fact some remain very vivid in me. But, I learned valuable lessons of life from those memories, I am able to call them up now and not hurt, and later life showed me that indeed there was someone else for me to make me happy. So the memories are like all others, they are simply memories that chronicle a part of our lives.

They also offer me a benefit because they’ve helped me better understand that aspect of life and with that understanding I help others so that when they have a broken heart I can help them heal. This makes those memories very precious and makes me feel that it was a good thing that I had that broken heart years ago.

You know, our natural tendency is to run away from pain. That’s why some people never date, hoping to find that magic person and thus avoid pain. What they don’t realize is that by waiting they never learn how to build a good relationship and as a result they suffer even more pain when they do fall in love eventually. We can’t avoid pain, it’s an inevitable part of life. Even staying in bed all day isn’t the answer, that robs you of enjoying life and it shortens your life in the process.

Remember that there is nothing permanent in life. The best we can do is to hold on to something for a short while. That perfect partner you will meet tomorrow might get hit by a truck crossing the street to enter the church to marry you, or perhaps he will outlive you, there is no way to know. Because of that we need to live as well as possible whenever possible while always being mindful that the happiness of the moment inevitably will end at which point we will be called upon to pay for it with some more pain.

What we need to do instead is to recognize that pain is inevitable and instead of trying to find ways to avoid it or suppress it, we should spend our energies finding ways to cope with it. The better we get at coping with pain, the less we become afraid of it and the more we are willing to take risks that will enrich our lives. Your broken heart is a wonderful opportunity at this moment to practice coping with pain. As you slowly master this art, the next person who comes along and captures your heart will give you many more moments of happiness because you won’t be as afraid so you’ll share more openly.

While you may feel miserable now, in time you’ll discover that this moment has been a blessing from which you will emerge stronger and wiser and more able to find a lasting happiness with someone else. I speak from experience, having had far too many broken hearts myself.

I hope this helps you a little. Good Luck!

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sure it does for most people. as you get older the things and people you thought were so great and important suddenly don't look that way anymore. right now you think this person is the best thing in the world, that's only because you haven't yet met the best person in the world for "you". When it does yeah broken hearts heal.

you never completely recover from a broken heart, it just gets easier to deal with day by day....

I feel like you do, for mine was broken over 30 years ago.....and with time, it did heal.

yes, u can do it, like a wound, if u think positive!