I'm right, she's wrong. What do you think?

Of course you're right!!! Why should you & your husband HAVE to support all of them. Yes, friends do help each other out in difficult times. But, if she wasn't even willing to contribute to a basic necesseity as the groceries, then she is clearly abusing your kindness. And furthermore, they should have been contributing from the very begining!! You don't get any free rides in life, and it seems that a free ride is what they were trying to get.

By the way, my hubby was arrested once, does that mean that I don't have to pay my mortgage or feed our son??

I am sorry, but no TRUE girfriend, I don't care how long you've known them, would EVER put you in the position this woman has put you in.

They would have never moved a trailer onto your property to live indefinitely. They would have never let their husband have control of your child - especially if he has a history of violence. They certainly would not hold it against you for their man's incarceration nor expect you to care for everyone she has living with her in the trailer ON YOUR PROPERTY.

No offense, did you marry up, or did she marry way, way down?

I know everyone can fall on hard times, but to feed off of friends for over six months? Maybe family for a month or two, but not friends.

You are certainly correct - she is definitely wrong.

Further, you can check the laws in your area, but I would find a way to give her and her family an official eviction notice stating if the trailer isn't removed from your yard (if it isn't yours) within a certain amount of time, it would be sold and the monies split 50/50, with your expenses caused by them removed from their half of the sell.

You're a lot nicer of a friend than I would be!

Merry Christmas!

I think you are amazing to help out a friend like that. In regards to whether or not she should pitch in, well that seems so blazingly obvious to me, however it seems she is lacking any sort of good judgement if her husband is anything to go by.

If you don't think she will give you any money and I don't think she will. I think you just have to put it down to life experience and move on...live and learn as they say.

Oh and by the way I hope the a$#hole that hurt your daughter has his butt locked away for a very long time....jerk!!

Good luck to you and at the very least feel good about yourself for being a decent human being and helping out a friend in need.

Wow sweety, I am SO sorry that you're in this situation. Good for you, for many reasons!

I would take into consideration the money she makes, and calculate to yourself how long it would take her to save up for first and last. Give her that as a date to move, if she stays after that date, she has to agree to pay a certain amount to continue living there.

If she's been your friend for 25 years, surely you could talk to her, for she sounds a little too "comfy". If she loves you as much as you obviously love her, then she will respond to the heart-to-heart and start looking for another place or coughin up some cash.

She's living in a trailer behind you, does she pay rent? Really doesn't matter because you have a landlord/tenant relationship and must follow state law on evicting them. Unfortunately, they can make your life miserable until the Sheriff removes them after much hastle in court.

You though are under no obligation to provide anything for them except you can't cut off utilities or water to them.

It can get very hairy and you should seek legal help or at least advice on the proper legal steps to take.

Her husband committed the crime and she and her kids will suffer because of it but you are not resonsible to help them.

Good luck.

I am sorry to hear about your daughter, there is no excuse for that! I think you are right, she should have to take care of her own kids even if she's moving. It shouldn't be about you or your husband supporting them. If she was on her own and got kicked out the landlord wouldn't be buying her groceries. Tell her to get on food stamps if she cant buy groceries cause its not your problem.

I absolutely agree. It was a very nice thing you did for her and it is unfortuanate that her husband has those issues but it is NOT your fault about his issues. You need to talk to her in a nice way that it is very difficult for you to support a second family and you love her to death but you can't do it anymore. Tell her you are sorry you couldn't help more but its just financially impossible and you want the best for your children, husband, and personal life. Good Luck

There is absolutely NO DOUBT you are right. I think she's been smoking something out back if she thinks your family should support her financially at all. Tell her that her husband was arrested because he acted like a pig and harmed a child. If anyone owes anything to another it is her to you.

She is a "user" and is taking advantage of you. Perhaps this is just temporary because she is overwhelmed and desperate.

I would suggest sitting down and developing an "exit strategy" plan. One that will leave you feeling good about yourself, and give her enough warning to attempt to get her life in order.

Though you have every right to throw her out immediately, I think you'll feel better about the whole thing if you have a timeline.

I'm sorry about what he did to your daughter. That's just horrible. I don't think you should care for her family. She may be your friend. But it's the holiday season and things are getting expensive. It's not your responsibility to care for all of those people. Tell her she has a week then she has to leave. Thank you! Happy Holidays