miscarriage. how to survive it?

Girl, I feel for you. I miscarried in April 2006. It still hurts. What happens with me is that in the middle of my day-to-day living, it just hits me like a ton of bricks. I got so bad that I figured out/estimated my due date and labeled it on my calender as 'baby's 1st'. I wanted so bad to get pregnant again afterward for so long too. I finally realized that wasn't healthy, not healthy at all. And I stopped hoping/wishing for the time being, telling myself maybe later when things are better. Now I'm anywhere from 10 wks to 13 wks pregnant. I am so busy being worried about keeping this one and trying to keep it and my life on some kind of an even kneel that I haven't really had a chance to reflect on the one I lost. D@mn that sounds terrible, doesn't it? I know I will always wonder about the one I miscarried. So far its made me cherish this one sooooooooo much more.

It gets easier to a point after time. Survival is a *****. Give your body a chance to heal. Hopefully that will give you a better chance at carrying full term. Good luck.

One miscarriage will not affect your chances of having another miscarriage. You would be surprised how many women have a miscarriage and didn't know they were pregnant - and think they just had a heavy period.

It is normal to grieve - but a year sounds like a really long time. I think that you need to seek counseling or a Bereavement Counselor. Your doctor should be able to direct you toward one.

Don't worry. It does get easier. You just have to learn how to cope and cope appropriately. I am worried that it has been a year and you are still in the first stage or two of grieving.

Please - find a bereavement counselor, a family counselor - or even a psychiatrist / psychologist. Sometimes, you can't handle everything on your own - and that is OK. Everyone needs help every now and then. Knowing when to ask is most important - and I am just letting you know - now is that time.

My prayers are with you.

I miscarried 1 and half years ago. I grieved for a while but i think what helped me get through was thinking that the baby just wasnt meant to be, sometimes we want a baby so bad and get what we want but in the end i think that it is god who decides when another life is supposed to be there. If that makes any sense. idk.... any ways it took me a year to even have a period after the fact and i kept trying every month it didnt happen and finally 1 year later i got a period and now i am 23 weeks pregnant. I dont think one miscarriage is going to ruin your chances of concieving and most doctors think that after 6 to a year after having a miscarriage it is safe and healthy to try agian. Good luck and best of wishes to you

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