virgin problem or normal?

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im a virgin, that is stuck inbetween a boy & manhood. the problem is that girls that appeal to me whom ive found an interest in and tried to get to know better either ended up in rejection or had my game-plan sabotaged by third-party cockblockers.

 now there were multiple occasions in my past where i couldve lost my virginity to escorts & hookers, some of the escorts were extremely hot like playboy hot. but realized that id rather die a virgin than have to pay for it to lose it so i passed them up. not that there is anything wrong with paying for sex, just that the first time should be.. wholesome.  

then there are those girls that dont appeal to me what so ever in which i have no interest in and have never or would ever ask out. i again would rather die a virgin than have that as an option.

im fairly sure its only a matter of time before i meet a girl where theres a mutual attraction.. so is this normal? where do i go from here?  should i just die a virgin? so whats the consensus?

abagtha_778 · Accepted Answer

yea........its perfectly normal...not everyone can do casual sex....

bellaserah2 · Answer

You are not supposed to meet a lot of ppl where there is a mutual attraction because than you could date anyone. Don't get upset because everyone has problems with rejection or the opposite where you are not attracted to the person. Just keep on trying. I know a guy who hasn't tried since highschool where he dated a ton of girls and now he is a 26 yr old virgin. Virginity is not a bad thing. I was 21 when I lost mine and that was with someone I really cared about. Sex is not a big deal but getting STDs is or AIDS. You are fine... You will not die a virgin. Have sex when you are ready... I wasn't till i was older because I didn't trust guys with my feelings. You will have sex b/f you know it because say you are 20 when you have sex than you have got more 80 yrs to have sex. Don't rush you have the rest of your life!

archer_jl · Answer

if you are planning and it fails, quit planning.
I'm still a virgin and I don't care... the more you treat it like something beyond, the more you'll contemplate on a way to lose it. It is better to stop thinking about it than to let it consume you... but it doesn't mean that you go for hookers or anything... I'm just suugesting you to just take it easy when it comes to things like this...
Find someone that you can associate with so that you don't encounter those... "cockblockers"

libertina · Answer

My advice would be to be patient and also to be realistic about who you've got a shot with and who might be out of your league. Holding out for someone super-hot is usually a losing game. Find ways to meet girls that you've got something in common with, get to know them for more than their bodies, and see what happens from there. Reassure yourself that the day will come when you're no longer a virgin and stop putting pressure on yourself to "lose it". It will happen -- and it's really not uncommon for guys to wait until college (no matter what they tell you).

asbratcher · Answer

Good for you that you have hung onto your virginity and not lost it in a cheap impersonal way.  Virginity is not a disease to be cured.  Nor is it a condition that has to be "taken care" of by certain age.  Losing your virginity should be to the woman you want to spend a whole lot of time with in your future.  Go slow and find the right woman for you.  Enjoy the fun of the chase and enjoy the capture of the woman of your life.

janell · Answer

Hay man !!! HOW GAY ARE YOU ? Seriously I know you want your first time to be special and all but seriously come on you gave up sex. Also important thing to remember is that you can only have limited sex with escorts by that I mean you can’t go all the way you cause at the back of the mind you will be thinking AIDS/STD etc. But still you can still have a good frack. Also it will be limited oral sex, considering she can suck yours with a condom only and you can’t taste her at all. Still with all the diseases going around maybe celibacy maybe the right option till you meet your dream girl. But remember you are getting older by the minute. There might not freaking enough time to bang her and have your Dreamy first time (everything you imagined) and then say hay I want to experience sex with different people too. The time is NOW eventually you will connect with the right person you are meant to be with but till that time at least have some fun. Dude its SEX with different girls You can never have Enough. (I hear each one is a different experience).

Anonymous · Answer

i think you are being a little over dramatic, you aren't going to die a virgin and you don't have to sleep with hookers that gross and sad. there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, alot of girls like the idea of being with a virgin cause they know you are safe from std's and stuff, don't worry the right girl willl come along

Anonymous · Answer

Oh hell no. You dont want to die a virgin. You need to pick up your game, playa. What you need to do is go to the nearest mall and get fresh white blazer and a jeans with a nice shirt. Then you need to hit the clubs and spit your mad game to the ladies. Once you start talking to her do EVERYTHING to keep her entertained. Then ask her if she wants to sit down. Talk her in to going out on a date and then go from there playa.

Marina · Answer

Based on the content of this question, I'd say you're not mature enough to be having sex in the first place so it's a good thing it hasn't happend for you yet!

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody should die a virgin.  Absolutely NO ONE.  If your standards are that high and you are unable to get the woman you want, just pay a hooker and get it over with.

Anonymous · Answer

dude there is no rush i mean i see where you are coming from but you dont want it to be the wrong person and you dont want it to be just SOME GIRL and her wind up getting pregnet and you doing the right thing and staying with her do you just put yourself out there and they will come

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