How far would you go?

It is my opinion that the buyer always goes to the seller.

That's just the way it works. She is not doing you a favor by wanting to purchase your item. It's a business transaction, and I agree with you that she should make it convenient for you, not the other way around.

I wouldn't even want to sell the jeans to this lady after she put me through all this headache. There are probably other buyers out there that would come to you. I would hold out, especially if this is only the first interested party to respond to your ad.

Let me tell you a quick story about how people can be:

I was giving away a hand made bird aviary that I advertised in the paper for free. It was made out of pvc piping and chicken wire. A guy came to get it, and then had the nerve to ask me if I had a pair of wire cutters. He cut all of the wire off of it, and then placed just the pvc pipe frame on the hood of his shiny suv. He left me the chicken wire to dispose of. He didn't even take the bird perches made out of tree branches I made for it. I realized then that he didn't care to use it for a bird, but figured the pvc was worth something.

After he left, I received a desperate call from a lady who needed the aviary for her birds that had their cage destroyed in a recent fire. I never forgave myself for allowing this free cage to go to the first person that called. I had the right to determine who was the most deserving of this gift. I made the wrong decision.

A lesson to be learned.

If you feel your price is fair, and you're not desperate for money stick to your guns. Another buyer will come along. Hell, you already made a fair compromise (IMO) by suggesting to meet in a central location.

There's a difference between being open, honest and matter of fact with people, and just plain rude. Let her know that this is not a central location for you, that it is over an hour drive, and not what you agreed to. Is it possible that she was unclear on your location? Anyway, suggest another location that is truly central. If she agrees, great. If not, let her know that you are sorry but you do not feel this will work out. Anyone offended by that type of honest, open communication has issues, and I do not think this is rude at all.

People will always try to get the very best deal. Simply tell the potential buyer that by a central location, you meant something like _____ or ______, which is central to both parties. Give her specific locations as suggestions.

On the other hand, perhaps getting that far is difficult for her. She may not have a car and rely on public transportation. You might tell her that you will bring them to a public location close to her, but the price will be $60, rather than $45, to help compensate you for your time and fuel costs. Then leave the decision up to her.

You listed the conditions of the transaction since the beginning, and your potential buyers should stick to them. l sold stuff on Ebay for a long time, and at first I did agree to meet people in different spots (not too far from where I lived tho) only because I was just building my reputation. Once I had a good one, *I* set my conditions and if people wanted to buy what I was selling, they had to pay the price AND the shipping. I wouldn't go meet them ANYWHERE, and only in very special cases I'd go to a metro station or a spot close to where I worked/lived to deliver the goods. Otherwise they had to come to MY office, or pay the shipping. You're entitled to setting your own conditions and if this person wants to get it all (delivery + discount) I would just dump her. I wouldn't drive to the place she told you, I'd just tell her that I don't have the time to make it all the way down there and that you may consider dropping $5 (as someone suggested) if she comes close to you, otherwise you need the location to be REALLY central and there will be no discount because you have to go meet her, which wasn't considered in the original agreement. I'd just wait for another buyer..... Good luck.

You'll find someone else to buy them - don't worry. But listen to the folks here who mentioned safety.

Do not give anyone your home address! Figure out a place near you that is public and always has lots of people, like a cafe or something - tell your prospective buyers to meet you there to make the exchange.

If this girl really wants the pants she'll meet you at your local Starbucks or whatever is 5 min. from your house, and pay the price you are asking. Otherwise, just wait for the next offer!

Good luck!

You're in control, especially if she's already asking you to lower the price.

Either she comes to you, or YOU decide what the ACTUAL central meeting place will be.

It sounds like she's being ridiculous, and making too many demands for someone in her situation.

Tell her nicely that gas prices are too high, and she either needs to give you the full $45 or come to you.

As long as you say it politely, she should understand.

Dude... it's some random lady. Just tell her no deal. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. If she was the only person you could possibly ever sell the jeans to, then you should think about stuff like this. Otherwise who cares. If she wants the jeans she will come get them. You really shouldn't have to go out of your way to sell something used.

That is the thing about posting stuff at craigslist"Never know" Be safe and pay for shippin if she is really intrested.

after all is just JEANS ..Sounds like creepy to drive all that way for a pair of jeans when I could get some at the local mall .

anyway I did post there before when I was selling a toddler bed and did it only locally and SHIPPED.

If they don't like it don't buy it.

someone else will.

Just explain to her that it's not possible for you to come to her so she'll have to pick the jeans up from you if she wants a cheaper price. Or YOU suggest a meeting place. Otherwise, if you end up driving to her I would charge her more than $45 for the jeans to cover your gas expenses.

You stated at the begining that $45.00 was your minimum, stick to it. I would tell her if she wants them, it's a fair price, and most people don't accomodate buyers at all. If she can't accept that you will meet her half way, (without a discount) then wait for another buyer. Lika a bus, if you miss one another will soon come along. Don't go down on your price, it's a very fair price.