Im 15 and I want to have a...?

i know you both want a baby....but when it comes down to it is he gonna drop out of school to pay for everything are you gonna be able to keep up in school when you had 45mins of sleep all night b4 that big test

i think you need to talk to your parents about this i mean you would have to tell them when you are pregnant why not tell them you are trying to have a baby...if they say its AOK go for it and i wish you all the luck in the world

there is a reason why ppl look down on teen pregnancy its not because they don't think you can handle it personally its because its not an easy life...having a baby as an adult isn't easy

for a baby you would need

a car (to take them to the Dr) $1000

car insurance $ 150 a month

gas for the car $ 100 a month

a crib $ 50 cheap crib

bottles $ 40

formal for the bottles $ 75 a month

diapers $ 100 a month

wipes $25 a month

Dr. co pays ( i have good insurance and its still $20 a visit)

having the baby at the hospital $2000 with out insurance

clothes $ 40 a month the baby grows fast

diaper bag $ 30

car seat $ 110

stroller $ 75

day care $100 a week

now your parents kick you guys out and you have get an apartment...i life in a cheap apartment in not a great side of town on the 3rd floor all steps to get there and its $450 a month including power gas water and trash

cable is $110

the aparement we looked at b4 this was $300 a month including power gas and water and it had rats

starting to see babies aren't cheap and this is just what i can think of off the top of my head that isn't counting if the baby is sick or needs other things

I'm 15 too, I want a kid, but not yet. But then, if you want one, who am I to judge?

You both need jobs if your going to support a family without high school diplomas. That's hard because you need to raise the kid. Work a while before you get pregnant so that you'll have money saved up.

Make sure you have your parents support, you CAN'T do this without them. You just can't.

You're also going to need a place to keep the kid. So you'll need a house that you BOTH live in.

Really think about this. You may like the idea now, but in 5 years, when all you want to do is have fun and be with your friends, you'll have a five year old running wild. They're crazy, remember that. And make sure your BF is a good guy. Really a good guy.

And baby girl: it's wedlock not wet lock.

For gods sakes!

You need a roof over that child's head. You are too young in any state to sign a lease or rent a place so hopefully your mom doesn't kick you out.

You need to have at least $300 a month to support the child's daily needs. about $100-$150 for formula (It's about $15-20 a can and a can lasts 2-3 days.) About $75 for diapers and wipes and a good $100 for misc. items such as clothes jackets bottles nooks, stuff like that.

Cribs at cheapest cost $200 for the mattress and crib, the bedding sets are at cheapest about $100 so that's $300 you need for that.

Highchairs = 100+

Stroller 70+/-

Car seat 60

Initial clothing purchase 100

Porta Crib/Playpen 100

Swing 70

Activity Center/walker 60

Blankets 40

God only knows what I'm forgetting.

So until your boyfriend has $1000 in hand and you know your mom will house you and your child, I'd wait, or you may be getting yourself in quite the mess.

Not to mention the cost of an education which most teen parents loose out on is priceless and the cost of time that that child needs is enormous!!!! 24 hours a day 7 days a week when that baby cries you better be ready! And trust me when I say your boyfriend will not be the one answering these tears! You weight it out and figure out what works for you, but I must say even McDonald's requires a high school diploma these days!

Oh and you loose your teen years... again that is priceless. I know two girls that are now of age that were teen moms. My best friend had a son at 15 and another good friend of mine had her first at 15 and second at 17. Let me tell you where they are today. Wishing they would have waited because daddy of the year that promised so many things ran off and got someone else knocked up and then took off on them as well, grandma and grandpa don't support this child because they believed that it should have been adopted out. Both of these girls struggle every day to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table. They do not have a good life and can not get a job because they do not have an education! The jobs they did have did not offer enough pay for child care!

But I guess it will be all sunshine and lollypops for you, right? This guy will never leave you... And he'll make more then min wage?

Oh the min wage subject, until he is 18 he can't work many hours per week at all. Usually about 20/week. so lets say he lucks out and finds a job that pays $8/hr at 20 hrs per week. that $160/week which makes $640/month then uncle sam will take about $200 off of that. That give you him and baby $440 a month to survive, and trust me when I say it wont be long before he realizes that his Xbox game is more important then the child and your child is without.

Wow.... at 15 I was trying to figure out how to NOT get pregnant.... well 16 actually, but anyway I don't think you are ready to have a child if you have to ask people on yahoo answers what you need for your baby. Finish school, get a job, then you can think about the baby.

I really can't believe that teenage girls are wanting to have baby's like children are the new Jordan's. Having a child is not a trend. It is a lifelong commitment that requires a lot of hard work, time and patience.

I am not bashing teenage girls that get pregnant by accident, I am however saying getting pregnant as a teenager on purpose is not the way to go.

I am not her to judge you because everyone sins. In my opinion you are too young to be having sex. Babies cost alot of money. Some adults can't even afford to have a child much less. You and your boyfriend can't get a job that is good enough to support a baby with no high school diploma. He might seem like a good guy now but he is a male. What if he leave? you are going to be the one stuck with a baby not him. Do you think that you honestly have enough money to take care of a child? Well your baby is going to need food, diaper, proper clothing, and shelter. That is only the begining what about when he/she is sick, Dr visists can be very expensive. Plus if they need antibotics. The baby is going to need somewhere to sleep. Baby's also need car seats,high chair, stroller and other things. Your child will be a living person that cries, gets hungary and uses the bathroom. A child is not some doll. It is a big step to have a child. Once you have one you can't just dump them off on someone because they are your respondsiblity. I can't tell you what to do the choice is yours. But once you make your choice you have to live with that for the rest of your life. I think you should put of having a child. your only 15 and you don't know if you are going to be with your boyfriend for the rest of your life. Your young enjoy your childhood because if you have a kid you won't get to do all the things you could if you didn't have a child.

Before you get pregnant i think you should babysit a baby, ask a parent if you can babysit for 3 days to give them some time off then if you cant do that you cant take care of a baby of your own....Will you be able to graduate highschool and take care of a baby? And your boyfriend needs to have a job before you get pregnant so you can start saving money. Are you two getting married, im not saying you shouldnt have a baby i just really want you to think this through all of it! Sometimes i wish i had a baby to but most people who have a baby young dont go to college or graduate from highschool they live in poverty and are often single mothers because the dad deserts and some of the dads promised they would be there just like your boyfriend did...It is your desicion but i think you should wait a little while longer and talk to people that had babies when they were around your age!

First he needs to get a job.

I'm not going to judge you but let me tell you a story about my friend... My friend had a a boyfriend they were both 15 and trying to have a baby... they tried for a while. At 16 they found out they were going to have a baby. Later in the pregnancy they found out she was having twins. Then one of the twins died (inside of her) she was hospitalized almost the rest of the pregnancy. She didn't have a job, a the only job her boyfriend found at 16 wasn't enough for anything. Shortly after he lost the job for missing to much work do to his baby and being in the hospital with her most of the time. Well they kinda got over that, except they couldn't even afford to put the name on the gravestone. They ended up living with his mom and they both work a job that pays almost nothing because they aren't 18 yet, they have no car and they can't save any money because they waist the little they have on the baby and their expense, thats even without paying rent or food.

HAVING A BABY IS VERY EXPENSIVE AND A JOB WITH MINIMUM WAGE WON'T DO IT. I KNOW SO MANY GIRLS THIS HAS HAPPENED TO. WAIT TIL YOU GUYS HAVE A CAR A JOB ANDA PLACE TO LIVE. AND THING SOMETHING YOU ARE WORTH.

I'm 21 and engaged. I've been with someone for almost 3 years and I want a baby more than ever and I've wanted one since a year and half ago(my fiance has too).

BUT It would be selfish and cruel of me to bring one into this world without being financially stable first. We're on the right track, but we're not there yet, we will be by next year or even in about 6 months.. but not now. I don't want to drain my government and fellow hard working tax people because I chose to "play house" and have a child before I was prepared to and have to claim aide... (I'm not downing anybody who's done this or who Has too, just something I wouldn't prefer doing)

Heck, I'm just trying to save up for marriage, and it's hard enough to do that, so I really want to wait until we'r more stable... If the unexpected happened, I'd take responsibility though, and all my money saved for marriage would go to preparations for the baby...

But if you go doing this now, you'll probably end up working day and night to provide for it and You'll miss out on alot of important things... in your child's life and Yours

I'm not judging you. BUT I'd like to tell you that it's really normal to have these feelings around your age. People used to have babies at 15 and 16 because they lived a shorter amount of time and you're most fertile now. So you could feel this way because of your (perfectly normal) hormones.

You need a stable home and loving, committed parents. You will also need to be able to watch the baby day and night, and have enough money for diapers, food, clothes, furniture.. This is generally why people wait until they are older. I think you should think about it for a while first. You have decades to have babies - go have some fun first!

I have a car. My boyfriend has a car. I'm 17 and my guy is 18. We've been together for 2 years, 9 months. We're both in college and he has a job. He lives on his own with a good friend of his. Both guys pay rent and bills. Good guy. Would I put him in a position to take care of a baby? Hmmm.... nope. Not even close.

I wouldn't even want to be in the position! I'm not going to lie, I have thought of it. Though, I don't go through with it. I THINK... I THINK ALOT. THINKING and using your head is what you need to do right now.

Stay in school and be a teen. You don't want to be an adult, yet. Or take on responsibilities as an adult. You aren't fit to do this. Take it from me.

Violet