I live with my dad and his wife.?

Clean up only the mess from you and your child. Leave the rest for whoever made the mess.

If this doesn't work, and you are unhappy, you might need to find your own place.

Hmm, this is why women who aren't bloodfamily shouldn't live together. Everyone has different ideas of cleanliness, raising families, etc etc. The biggest problem is it's her house. But I'll leave that alone for a minute. She just had a baby and most likely isn't up to housework as yet. To keep the peace and to also give her time to recover, maybe you should clean up or have a maid come in to clean up if it's bugging you.

If she's always been like this, then you can either live with it or leave and get your own place. It is not a good idea for you to confront her about her cleanliness because there is no good way of doing that. Also it's not your place, it's your father and hers and maybe she's comfortable leaving dishes in the sink for a few days. Some people are like that (I am).

I dunno, all of this seems kind of petty to me. She just had a baby and you're complaining about her not putting up some dishes. It could be worse, she could be making your life hell.

The best thing to do is move out. You can't force her to be as "clean minded" as you. People keep house and chores in many different ways. What you consider dirty obviously isn't her take on the situation. Concentrate on tolerating her until you move out. Once you're gone your dad may feel the need to speak to her. While you're still there cleaning neither one of them are getting the full and total picture. Just wait; I doubt that your dad will allow the place to be anything less than he's used to seeing.

I am an extremely nice person....but I will not clean up after an able-bodied adult. That is ridiculous! I'm sure you have your reasons for being there so I'm not going to tell you that you should just leave. Have you talked to your dad about it? If communicating your concerns fails...just stop cleaning up after other people and don't step down from that. I had a roommate like that once an dit got to the point where she didn't clean up after herself because she knew I would do it, she expected it. So I stopped and she had no choice but to clean up after herself!

Put a notice on your door which says "Cinderella lives here!"

They are taking advantage of you and you are being treated like Cinders. You need that to change and perhaps you should have a chat with your dad.

If your dad doesn't do anything about it just stay out of the kitchen and watch the dishes pile up. It's her home now and obviously this is the way she want to run it.

Clean up after yourself and no more.

Well it is now her house, you are an adult and need to move out and then you can do things your own way. In my opinion there is no room for two women in the house that are about the same age it just doesnt work. So until you move you are stuck with it. And as far as her picking up after your dad, he is a grown man he can pick up after himself she is his wife not his maid, you should put some of the responsibility on him. You guys are just two different people and you do them differently there is no right and wrong way to do it its all just matter of opinion.

It is their house, I suppose if she wants to leave the dishes out, thats her prerogative, choose your battles wisely, the dishes are hardly a topic worth getting into an argument over.

Just clean up after yourself and let her take care of her own mess, help out when and if you want, but don't hold the help you offer over her head.

Your better off finding some common ground between the two of you and be friendly, for the sake of all of you.

u didi the right thing by applyin 4 your own apartment cuz it sounds like your step mem is a nasty slob and there's nothin u can do about that. she's who she is and u can't train an old dog new tricks. the only thing i suggest 4 u is 2 keep pickin up after them cuz i kno u don't want your son livin in filth. have u tried talkin 2 your dad about it-maybe that'll help! i feel sorry for hin=m and your siblings when u move out cuz she sounds like a dirty filthy woman

i would sit down and talk with her. if she is mature enough she would understand and try to do a better job at cleaning. up after her self. i too am a clean person, i tell my step children to wash out their bowls and drinks before putting them in the sink. maybe you can tell her to do that too? i understand that it gets really annoying and upsetting, so just talk to her. or tell ur dad to talk to her?

If you are not paying rent you will be treated as someone who has to do work. If you pay rent move to your own place then you and your hubby can do what ever you want.