Was I bad in breaking up with him when I found out he had kids?

No! You lost respect for him because of how he reacted. Knowing how irresponsible he is made you feel terribly insecure. What he did was not right and his behaviour pushed you to that choice. Your friend is being totally unfair in their opinion of the matter.

It's FINE if you end a relationship for any reason important to you. If you weren't into kids and discovered the person you were dating had kids, it would be okay to move on.

In this case, it's quite possible for a man to have kids he's not aware of, if the woman he impregnanted never told him and they parted ways before it was obvious she was "with child". That he's not doing anything now, isn't impressive though. He should've required DNA tests be done to verify if he was indeed the father, and then find out why the kids are years old and he's just now being sued for support.

Regardless, if you're turned off by his situation or it's something you don't want to have to deal with as the partner of a person with new drama and issues in their life, that's fine.

Do what's best for you...it's your life and considering it's relatively short, you need to make the best of it for you and not regret spending time with someone ya weren't really into or in a situation you didn't want to be in.

Take care of you.

I don't think you were in the wrong. It sounds more like you ended it because you couldn't believe he didn't stand up and take charge of the situation like he should have. Your friend is right, it's not his fault if he honestly didn't know about the kids, but he definitely should have done SOMETHING about it once he found out.

No you weren't wrong. I wouldn't date a woman if she had kids. You shouldn't be mean or hurtful to him, but sounds more like you have more of a problem with him being unmotivated than having kids. No point in settling for someone with less value if you really don't want to. Don't worry about the person giving you trouble.

no u were not he also found out about his kids and did nothing about it yeah its his fault he shouldnt have slept around at that age so u shouldn't feel bad about it and ask ur friend 2 drop the subject when she brings it up hes a loser 4 not taking care of his kids

maybe, he is trying to pick-up his memories that was scattered everywhere. ask him why he's not doing anything and if in doubt that they're his kids then there's so called DNA testing. if he has the nerve to be in a relationship at his age right now, he doesn't need to wait for somebody like YOU to think and stand up for his own responsibilities. what you see is what you get. . . he's not worth it! it's not right to lay back and pretend like nothing happened = let your boy clean-up his own mess! =)

Nope, not at all. You did the right thing. You should never continue to advance a relationship under false pretenses. Honesty is always the best policy.

It sounds to me like you were upset with the way he responded to this information. It's also pretty weird that he would have TWO children he didn't know about. I'd say you could do better, and were right to break it off. Tell your friend she is welcome to date him if she thinks he is such a catch.

listen,there is noting to be ashamed of.if he don't tell you,you had kids than i would do the same thing! but if he told you that he had kids than that would be another story.

It's not his fault. If he has 2 children then he has 2 children. If you really loved him, your love for him wouldn't change regardless of what he knew or didn't know.