My wife just quit her job and will not clean house what do I do?Ladies help me please!?

DIVORCE

If she's not working, then she should be picking up some of the slack around the home.

That being said, I wonder about your expectations of your wife. You said, "The way I brought up woman took care of her home period" - keep in mind that not everyone was raised this way. Also keep in mind that micromanaging someone is counterproductive. You may want her to be a certain way and have your expectations, but if you are constantly correcting the way she does things, or scolding her for not doing what you expect, your wife may feel defeated and stop trying. See if giving her some space to do things 'her way' helps. She might start cleaning more if she feels she can do things the way she wants. This might mean that the house isn't as clean as you'd want it, or it might also mean that she doesn't do it the way you'd like, but getting it done one way or another is better than not at all.

You also said that decorating is a thing that women like to do, and men do the outside work. That is an assumption on your part. I'd MUCH rather do yardwork than to decorate the inside of the house, and I'm a woman. So, again, this has to do with your viewpoints, which your wife may not share with you. Not all women like the same things.

When we get married, we all bring our expectations with us into the marriage. They are usually based on what we grew up with, what kind of a marriage our parents and grandparents had. We tend to repeat what we saw growing up. Your wife comes from a different family, with different ways of doing things. Talk to her about what she expects, tell her what you expect, try to understand eachother's perspectives as you come to some sort of compromise. Good luck.

This could be a medical problem sounds like you need to get her to a doctor. She Could Suffer From Depression. When you have that a lot of things do go by the wayside. You don't mean to but you just feel like your drowning and can't see the way out

A lot that suffer from depression suffer in silence. For Many Different Reason

May i Say Something First Of all there is No Such thing as Womens Work Or Man's Work Marriage is Teamwork, You Work Together

She obviously Needs Help right now

I have some Medical Issues Myself one of them bieng depression i am on medication so that helps me but i know i try to do the best i can to keep our home clean and all that

Sometimes i can't get as much done as i would like but I Pace Myself

Now What I did Is Not just Working With My Doctor on My health issues But Working with a counsellor as well

Sometimes A lot of issues Hide under Masks we may not even know are there

She May not wanna show weakness but to accept help is not a sign of weakness it's a sign of strength

Those are just somethings i had to do i hope this helps

You REALLY need to have a good sit down with her. She's probably depressed.

She might enjoy it if you BOTH did the cleaning together. Tell her you will help.

Personally, if you BOTH work, you both should clean. Women used to not work, so their job was to keep the house in order... now we do work and it should be the responsibility of both people in the house.

Now that she's not working...she should help out more around the house.

If you can't get her to do anything - time to hire a maid. It'll take care of all problems!

I work. My husband works. He helps once in a while - but I think he should help more. I grew up in household where my dad helped all the time. I don't think the wife should cook, and clean up too... a little help afterwards is always nice.

What have YOU done for her lately? She might be feeling neglected... it's hard to get up and do something for someone that doesn't seem to appreciate it (just expect it). Notice things... and compliment her. Quit taking your wife for granted... and offer some nice words of encouragement and love. You'll be surprised what they can do!

Well if she didn't do it before you got married then chances are she won't do it afterwards. The only thing you can do is talk to her and say "I would love for you to help me out around the house, I think it would look much better if we would clean up more." Something along those lines. Now I would have to say, I was not the cleanest woman in the world when my hubby and got married, but when I got pregnant, the clean switch came on and I just really got into keepin my house up. So maybe, it just takes a little time. It could be depression or something like that.

I know this lady who quit her job and she help around the house when she was working but all her husband did is drink his beer on the weekends and looked at TV. He told her if he didn't make the mess he wasn't cleaning up. Now she is not working and she's doing what she wants to.

From what you just said,"The way I brought up woman took care of her home period." Welcome to the new world, those times are long gone. A woman has her own individuality and she is not going to do what she don't want to do. I was always told that a man should take care of his home so why would a woman have to work. Why because she want to help take care of her family but she is not the slave to.

My advice is to have a serious talk with her. Tell her that you want to start working together as a team to keep the house clean. I understand that you have a job, and since she doesn't it seems as if she should be the one that keeps house. I think she may be more inclined to clean, if you help out, too.

For instance, try splitting up the chores. If she is going to cook, then you could do the dishes. If she does the laundry, maybe you could help her fold it, etc.

Sometimes people need a little motivation. Let her know that you want to work together as a team and maybe she'll come around.

Inform her that everything in a relationship is shared 50/50 (equally) which includes the household chores. Tell her if she wants to carry on sitting on her *** smoking up a storm then stop buying her cigarettes until she starts helping around the house.

That was a pretty sexist comment about "women taking care of the inside stuff", these days BOTH people in the relationship take part in cleaning the inside and outside of the home.

Good Luck getting her motivated to get off her ***! I feel it won't be easy!

was she like that before you married her? if so, then you knew what you were getting into.

you can either stop complaining or keep complaining. either way, she's gonna change if and when SHE wants to.

you have to decide what to do about this.

at our house, i'm tired of cleaning up behind a grown man. but if my husband cooks, i'll wash dishes. if he does his laundry, i'll fold and put it away. get the picture?

i work just as hard as he does and i feel that there should be an equitable distribution of labor in the household.

wives are not slaves or servants. maybe you could give her some incentive like offering to send her to the salon for a treat AFTER she does so many days of clean up? :-)

If she didn't want to help...

Even when she was working, then that just means you married a unclean woman...period.

Some people don't like to clean their homes.

Did you know this before you married her?.

Darling you must have. This is what happens in marriage's today. We settle. We see things, and we ignore them, and then we get married...and complain.

Try to sit down with her and have a talk with her. Ask her what you can do to help her. Talk to her family as well. Buy her some books. Talk to a shrink, a doctor. Do you know anything about her childhood?. You might have to dig for some information.

So...you might just have to reevaluate your relationship with her. Specially if you talk to her....and she basically ignores you, or says...I plainly...don't...care, and does not want any help what so ever. Sometimes you can't change people.

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How long can you live with her...imperfections?

Remember.....Through better....

Or worse.

Lucy

Sounds like your wife might does not like to clean. Why don't you guys clean together. Start cleaning stuff and ask her kindly to help you. Like if your doing the living room, ask her to vacumn or polish the furniture. Then you do the other. If she wants to vacumn you polish the furniture. .Make it a team effort. Then, have her help you with the outside too, if you want. Have her plant some nice flowers, and you can mow the lawn. So everything is shared. She might be depressed over her job. But be a team. I am married too.