Is there a solid reason for committing adultery?

Lets not fool ourselves here. This is reality. Majority of men I know (colleagues and friends) arent faithful. They engaged in either a long term affair with women or one night stand or smses affair or online affair or fantasy affair (in their minds). Those who does not engage in physical activity, do have the intention to do all that. The only thing stopping them was their tiger fierce wives.

It's infatuation. When you are in a relationship for awhile you become comfortable with that individual. When you meet someone new you get a rush similar to what you had when you start a relationship. But the feelings are fleeting and unless you have no conscious you will regret having the affair. I've been married 18 years and have never strayed. I avoid potentially dangerous situations and when opportunities do arise I realize I want to the be the man who is celebrating 50 years of marriage to a wonderful woman and not the man who is remarrying for the third time because I wanted what I could get at home. There are plenty of faithful couples out there. You just have to make a decision that you want to be faithful. At the end of the day all you really have is your integrity and if you sell out that what else will you sell out?

No, apologising wouldnt be enough ever to the person you hurt. if you are lucky, you may be forgiven but the damage is done. im inclined to think adultery is not excusable under any circumstances, so is cheating in a pre-marriage relationship. a one-off sexual relationship may be accidental or the so called lapse of judgment but an ongoing one is not a mistake, it is a willed act with intention, regardless of whether it is driven by the heart or the brain. it's plain wrong.

personally i would not "shop around". you may call me a righteous bullsh.it freak, i subscribe to the idea that you should only be with someone when you are serious about it yielding fruitful outcome. it has nothing to do with religion, just my brain.

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GarisHalus - that is a misconception on your part on the chinese community :)

Plain old human nature, hon. Like the songwriter says, *It went on yesterday, and it's goin' on tonight / Somewhere there's somebody ain't treatin' somebody right.* The *sanctity* of marriage isn't any weaker or stronger in terms of adultry than it's always been. I can tell you're too young to know that for yourself, yet, but you will, hon, you will.

"Cactus: I'm 34 years old . . . " Well, hon, some us learn later than others. Where have you been all these years?

Hey Atomic! don't say ALL MAN. It's disgusting.

l'm 44 and if l could l would whack you on your head for that. My last marriage ended because my ex was too busy cheating on me both with my money and her buying a house for her new man. Now that is degrading comment to all man.

For the recond, l don't mess around like most people, men or women.

You touch a raw nerve.

HRH Shim if u marry dint forget invite me to Ur wedding ...he he

no.theres no reason to commit adultery. men that cheat once always a cheater. especially the one who commit with a g@y.

relationship build on trust okay!

1. I don't know, belum kahwin.

2. I don't know, maybe for fun.

3. Could be accidental...."close personal friend"?...XD

4. No, not enough.

5. Money and time not enough to go shopping yet......XD

Yes, there are solid reasons for it.

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I guess you have done enough "shopping around" since you are getting married this year.

i dont think people have the solid reason, but who knows..

30 is my last "shop around".... after that, im gonna be the most setia.. haha..

Alamak..if gatal just scratch it!

Congrats in advance HRH...sure he's the right one?