Qhy do family and friends withdraw moral support for a woman facing various forms of abuse?

People need a great deal of spiritual resilience and understanding to be able to support someone who is either abused, or an abuser.

When family and friends lack spiritual resilience, they don't know how to cope with the abuse, so they withdraw. But I am sure they will still be saying silent prayers, and agonising over the woman who is being abused. I know I did, when my sister was too far away for me to be of much use to her.

I think support people need to have some kind of love and understanding for both the woman's and the man's perspective... because obviously a woman in an abusive relationship still has some feelings of love for her husband, or she would not have remained in it. She doesn't want to hear people condemning the man she loves... She still sees good in him, and she wants her supporters to see both the good and the bad in him, and just give her a little emotional and moral support in her difficult situation.

I think that is the other reason people withdraw: They tend to utterly condemn the abuser, rather than seeing him as a blend of good and bad, struggle and strength, just like the rest of us.

I think friends and family withdraw because they can't remain objective. It takes spiritual resilience to be able to have faith in two obviously imperfect people.

I would seriously hope that a woman facing abuse would not find herself without support from family and friends. I would guess that they don't want to give their input for fear that they will be drug into a nasty dispute.

I can think of many reasons a woman may feel she cannot leave. She may be concerned that she cannot survive financially. There may be children involved. There are many reasons.

Also, if the spouse is abusive as mentioned, she may fear for her safety if he were to find her. She cannot be protected all the time and at some point he will be able to find her alone. She may also fear for her children in this case. If this is true, she would need to contact the authorities. If she is this scared, staying with the abusive spouse only gives him more opportunity to cause harm.

Sadly, no. My fiance is my principal help, which I am thankful for, but it surely could be first-class to have family and peers who would present help, certainly considering the fact that I had been going by way of a intricate time.