No family vs. my boyfriends Big family...?

My fiance has a bigger family than I do too. I was wondering the same thing about if it's going to be weird that I don't have as many people. I think we're just going to put both sides together so it's not just his side full of people on one side and mine on the other with not many people. As long as the two people who you really want to be there, thats what matters. I hope that helps! =)

Although it may seem strange, it really shouldn't matter that he has more family than you do. We're in the same situation, although not because I don't get along with my family. My dad and grandparents are deceased, and I'm just not close to my extended family. I invited a few of them, but as I expected, they're not coming.

My fiance, on the other hand, has tons of extended family he's close to. Even though his parents, siblings, and most other relatives live in India, he has an aunt, uncle, first cousins, and many other relatives here in the US. He's close to them, and they're all excited to come to the wedding. So...he'll have about 30 family members, and I'll have my Mom, my sister, and my brother with his wife and kids - 7 in all.

Because his parents can't come (that's why we're going to India for another reception), his aunt and uncle will be seated where the groom's parents typically sit. His 3 first cousins & their husbands will sit where the groom's brothers & sisters would typically sit. Other extended family will be seated with our friends - evenly on each side of the aisle. That way, the ceremony won't look or feel lopsided.

Besides - people may know one of you better than they know the other, but they're coming to support you both. And they'll soon be your family too.

I don't think it will look weird. Many guests will just assume you have a small family. That's common. Some people's parents are only children, which means you wouldn't have an aunts/uncles/cousins. Also, some people's grandparents might have already past.

It's really no ones business to wonder why you have such a small family.

If your boyfriend wants his big family to attend, then have a big wedding. As long as the people that mean the most to are there, that's all that really matters. It's not about the size of your family, it's about their love and what they mean to you.

If you've gotten to know your guy's family well and they love you and look forward to you marrying in, then consider them also your family. Because come the reception they will be. : )

Really it's no ones business how many from your side attend and why. Some people just don't have that many family members.

In most situations like yours they bride and groom will not have assigned sides, you would just fill up the sides as people came in to make things look more even.

I have a big family, but am not close to many of them so I know how hard it is for me. I hope it works out well!

It's not a competition. Any wedding I've ever attended had one side more populated than the other. Some of his friends can sit on your side, if you'd like.

the people at your wedding should be the people that mean the most to you...no matter how big or small. If your boyfriend has 200 and you have 2...who cares...they are there for the BOTH of you

Don't segregate people! I had a similar issue, my husband had many more people attend our wedding than I did. So we instructed our ushers to seat people randomly to evenly fill each side. The idea of sitting on the bride's side or groom's side is an old-fashioned idea anyway! Nobody says we have to stick to it. :)

We had 54 people at our wedding, 6 were from my side that means 48 were from his. What we did was eliminate the "bride side" and "groom side" we sat evenly on both sides. The only people who got to sit on their respective sides were our parents grandparents and siblings. Seat everyone else evenly distrubuted on the sides.

Just find a location with 2 aisles or arrange the chairs w/ 2 aisles or no aisle at all, that way there will not be a bride's/groom's side, it will be sit wherever.