i need honest answers from muslims who know what they're talkin about?

a good question

it is the third action that has to be followed if she does not understand by first two methods.

first we must make her understand with our full knowledge.

second she must be suppurated from our beds.( u may understand this )

third is what u r talking about .

About this:

these are the lows to be followed when she does not obeys lows of Islam thou she wants to remain a Muslim.

Beating doe snot mean that beat with a hunter or any thing .

it is allowed such that she may feel pain (low) but not be hurt & bleed.

in most cases first two action are helpful and solve many cases.{want to know anything else im me} thank u.

Alsalam alaikum sister

The picture here is for a bad woman who is rebellious and unruled..the verse is not dealing with a good loving wife ..it is dealing with a troubled marriage ..what is the solution in this case in which the woman is the one in fault

1. advising her

2. abandon her sexually

3. Last solution that may or may not work is beating her..it is something like waking her up..

The verse states if she behaved well then the husband should completely stop hurting her ..if that last solution didn't work which can be expected with such rebellious woman then comes the next verse which say one family member from both sides should interfere that means the case is about to get divorce

# If you notice the verse is dealing with an abnormal situation

..you may not completely accept it or imagine it to happen to you and it will not happen because you will not humiliate yourself and reach that abnormal situation

I do think no woman reach that degree of deserved punishment unless she is really a bad wife

If she was a good woman and she had disagreement with her husband i do think she will never keep with a husband she is refusing and thus she will never reach that stage of punishment.

I know how you feel. When I first heard about this verse, I was in such great shock. So, I embarked on a long journey of research about this topic. I found so much information. This video pretty much sums it all up. It's a lecture by Shaykh Hamza Yusuf. Shaykh Hamza is an American Islamic scholar, co-founder of the Zaytuna Institute, and former advisor to George Bush on religious and international affairs. It is such a great video. It's in 7 parts and it's pretty long, but it is so good, and all the information is 100% true and explained very well.

Here it is:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snQZCJzRxw8

I hope you like this video. It will make you so glad to be a Muslim women. Shaykh Hamza really talks about all the rights of women in Islam. I never knew we had so many. Much more than the women do in in many other religions. It's truly amazing.

good, I will probably be sincere with you and I will attempt to make it functional. As Muslims we consider in Judaism and Christianity. We consider in Jesus and Mary however we do not consider in trinity. Jesus for Muslim is only a sacred human and a messenger of god who used to be venerated to be with out father. Whether Christians move to heaven or hill effortlessly we consider that the entire Christians earlier than Mohammed (the final messenger of God) will move instantly to heaven. But after the Islam gave the impression which used to be approximately six hundred years after Jesus. We consider that that is the final faith and the entire individuals have got to comply with that faith to be in a position to move for heaven. good, Some individuals will say we've not heard approximately Islam so why we deserve hill, As Muslim truthfully we don't seem to be definite of that for the reason that some of the god features is the complete equity and that imply no person can blame the ones individuals. So on the finish the well individuals must move to heaven and the dangerous have got to move to hill.

I think this quetsion comes up more than any others. If you look at the Quran and then hadith it clarifies it for it says if you must resort to discipline, do it with a feather, meaning not beating in the sense people use the word, rather with a caress that shows disappointment and then to turn away. And it is not for any offense. It mainly pertains to things like if she doesnt pray. Its not for just anything because Islam highlights the equality of men and women in a marital relationship and emphasizes the overall balance needed to maintain the relationship. Hope this helps!

In an Islamic family the husband does rule the house. He is encouraged to be nice to his wife and hear what she has to say, but the final word in any decision is his and it becomes fard on the wife to obey. A marriage is an arrangement where the man provides for the wife and the wife in turn obeys him and takes care of his property and kids.

The man is also responsible for his wife and how she acts. If the wife doesn't pray, for example, he will be held accountable on the Day of Judgement for not making his wife pray. So the man has to make his wife do what is right, first telling her what to do, then not sharing a bed with her, and then if all that doesn't work, he can hit her (but not in a crazy angry way, and not to injure her).

The husband is the Imam or leader of his home and family. The mother and children are like followers of the Imam. So yes it's the husband's right to discipline his wife/wives if they are disobedient in all cases. It's even permissible for the parents to discipline the children if they disobey the parents and don't do as they are told. Sometimes the husband needs to set an example or correct a mistake that the wife/wives do but he should do the first three actions(Talk to the wife/wives about why they did something bad, not let them cuddle with him in bed, refuse sex), and then lightly beat them if the above three options don't work for the wife/wives. I don't think the wife/wives are allowed to beat their husband because they are weaker then man and shouldn't be in a position of authority over a man. That is not their role in Islam.

In extremem cases where the wife could destroy the home, her husband is allowed not ordered to beat her. Prophet Mohammed said beating her Siwak "10 cm thing used to brush teeth". It doesnt hurt but it is a sign that the husband reach his max anger.

Prophet mohammed didnt do it. Most people dont do it.

If you read statistics, in US 1 out 12 wifes got beaten by their husbands. We dont have such numbers in midlle east. Believe me, nowadays the husband may got beaten if he humuliate his wife.

I wouldnt do it. If i find that there is no way to fix her. I'll tell her either we solve our problems or every one go his way "Divorce".

It's not allowed! there is no such thing!

Al Quran told us that the man can hit his women in very rare cases and he is not allowed to hit her in any harmful way!

I wish my English was better so I can translate exactly what "MUBRIHAN" means, but it mean that he should never hurt her!

There is no such verse that says woman are allowed to be beat. Women are highly respected in Islam and are highly loved. Anyone who beats their wife is going against the religon. Islam is a very peaceful religon, however there are bad people everywhere. Just like the saying that talks about a bad apple in a bushel. I agree with you that women should not be beat. Peace.