Asking parents to pay for a wedding?

You know your parents can't afford to help pay for the wedding so you shouldn't make them feel bad by asking them. Trust me, if they were planning on helping to pay they would have already offered up the cash. Plus you are already married to a woman they don't approve of!

You and your wife will have to either:

a) scale back wedding plans to something YOU can afford on your own

b) wait and save up the 10k

After 10 years of marriage i really see no reason in asking a parent to contribute anything, regardless if they helped a sibling in the past. While you may really have wanted them to, it really isnt their responsibility to help out this late in the game (in fact they dont even have to help a child on the 1st wedding- that is a gift in my opinion and should never be seen as an obligation). I would just proceed in the wedding planning and start to save now. You can push the renewal out a bit until you can pay for it yourselves and be proud of that. If in the case your parents do come through and help, be thankful and maybe you will have enough to add a few more things in the wedding. But honestly, you cannot judge your situation vs your sisters due to the fact they are not you. With you being financially stable it should be easier for you to wrangle up the extra 1000.

If you need some extra money but feel uncomfortable asking them for $10k or even any money then try what my fiance and i did.

We told them that we were trying to save up for a wedding where all the really special people in our lives could get together to celebrate. We also told them that if it was at all possible that we would like them to help and if they were able to contribute any amount they could afford to help with our saving and that if they couldn't we would appreciate their honesty rather than them falling further into debt just to try and please us.

They went away from our conversation to think it over and about a week later they told us that by the time the wedding was around they could contribute a total of $10k in small deposits as they had spare money. It was more than we ever expected from my parents as they are in a lot of debt paying multiple morgages after setting my sister and i up after we left home, separately that is, she has her home and i have mine then my parents have theirs. My mum is retired and only my dad works. We get about $500 every second month which helps paying to confirm vendors.

You might get nothing or you might get $5 every little bit helps when trying to pay for a wedding. If your fiance does the same with her parents you might just find you have the money you need to give your fiance the day she imagined.

Personally, I've always thought the bride's parents pay for the wedding. That's just tradition I guess. I don't think you should because it sounds like it's going to cause more tension with your parents especially if they aren't crazy about the marriage. I suggest telling your fiance you're either going to have to have a cheaper wedding or you guys are going to pay for it. Has she asked her parents for any help?? If it's her idea to have such a spendy wedding then she needs to come up with a better solution. Good luck with your marriage! Hope all goes well for you two.

Hi. I'm confused. You are already married, but now you are having a wedding? If, in fact, you are already married, what you will be having is a renewal of vows ceremony....not a wedding.

In any case, DO NOT ask your parents for any money. You know they cannot afford it.

You have two choices:

a. pay for the wedding yourself with whatever budget you CAN afford;

b. wait to save up for the "dream wedding."

Definitely DO NOT ask for money. If they don't even have the money to help, it doesn't matter whether they approve or not. Don't ask them to get themselves in more debt just so you can have a fancy wedding. Its tough, but I suggest you pay for it yourself.

IMO asking parents to pay for a wedding is a HORRIBLE idea.

The bride and groom should be paying for the wedding these days.

Especially rude since your parents are not financially well off.

Pay for the wedding yourselves.

Why doesn't SHE ask HER parents to pay for the wedding? (IMO that is just as rude.).

You are right in your feelings. Just have the type of wedding the two of you can afford.

Ask them to pay for what tradition says they should pay for. But be prepared to hear no.

Your family is supposed to pay for The rehearsal dinner, the brides flowers, the honeymoon, the tuxes, and the flowers for the men and i think they are supposed to pay for the mother of the brides flowers if she gets any.

That sounds like a tough one.... I would have to say, do the best on what you can afford. Unless, you have a talk with your parents and let them know your feelings.