Why Did She Reject Me When Coming Out?

Once she finds herself a bit more she'll come back - as long as you keep the door open to her.

I had one friend who when she came out just dropped out of my life. She had a rough time with the rejection that some of her other "friends" laid on her - so to deal with the hurt she just immersed herself in her new completely accepting community and dealt with the hurt that way. Eventually we got to be a bit closer again (it helped that she broke up with her militantly anti-hetero girlfriend and found a really nice girl to date) - I just kept being positive towards her and let her know that I was still around.

Good luck!

Give her some time. We have been taught to be wary of xtians when coming out. Her room mate is not her husband and she is still rather confused about her new life. I hope she finds someone to talk to about this as it will take her longer to accept it and be a total person.

Please continue to leave messages, just say' hi and haven't heard from you in a while' sort of thing.

We all travel on this journey at our speed, some of us dealing with it easier than others. First we have to acknowledge the feelings to ourselves, then start coming out to friends and family, then the community, etc. I think some of us get stuck in on of the stages. Someone close to her (family member?) may have really given her a rough time and now she's rebelling. It doesn't help but we can't walk in her shoes either. Be patient. Have you spoken to any of her family? Maybe they'll give you some light on the subject.

My best. Thanks for wanting to be in her corner.

It sounds like she is listening to a bunch of other gays and is getting her mind warped...that community is judging all heteros the same...and they think the world is against them....and remember love is blind...give her the space she needs ...maybe she'll wake up one day.Keep showing her how Christians love one another ...just do it from a distance(cards on special occasions etc.) and hope for the best...you are not doing ANYTHING wrong...God Bless you!

she has rejected you thinking you will reject her. Her friends may be down on straight Christians too. Give it time, be patient and just let her know though a card or something that you care for her and nothing has changed but you won't bug her. If she wants to be close again, you are willing.

hi. I think that lesbians and gays spend their WHOLE LIVES trying not to be judged by who they sleep with, and thats what she's doing to you. Tell her that. Also, tell her that just because you're christian, doesn't mean that you're against gays. Sit her down for a nice talk. :-)

Talk to her. Its a big steryotype that christians are anti-gay. Sit her down and show her that you support her and you aren't against her lifestyle.

She is avoiding you probably because of conscience; your presence reminds her that she's doing wrong.

One thing I warn you of; you can't just be friends with her as if there's nothing wrong because over time you will find yourself accepting that lifestyle/sin. We are warned all over the bible not to sit by accepting/passive in the midst of sin. Over time, it will corrupt you if you go along with it as if nothing is wrong.

The best thing you can do is to pray for her every chance you get and get your church to pray for her too. Pray that she will see the truth. God Bless.

tell her you accept her preferences . you want her to be happy . if she thinks it over , maybe shell come back around .