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Should I give my ex another chance or should I walk away?

Recently my ex-girlfriend has come back into my life. She is going through a divorce and has been seperated from her husband for over 6 months. She is taking the divorce hard even though it sounds like her ex-husband is an alcoholic and abusive. What I am wrestling with is that she left me for him. I treated her so well when we were together, I was never abusive or degraded her in anyway. I really loved her with all of my heart and I am kind of happy that she is back in my life. I have never stopped loving her. It is just that I am not sure it is worth me putting my heart on the line again. I am afraid that when she gets her feet back on the ground she will leave me again. She left me once why wouldn't she leave me again? Once again I am treating her very well and we have a good time when we go out. But, is she just using me to get through this tough time or do you think she deserves another chance? I am really not sure what to do? Serious replies only. Thanks.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Honestly, I think she needs some time of her own to get over her 'demons' of her past. You're likely to be a rebound if you take her back again. The last thing for her to be in a relationship and an additional counselling she may need after she's been in an abusive relationship.

    You can either risk it and break your heart. But honestly, I think she needs a fresh start for herself and yours as well.

  • 1 decade ago

    I feel if something ended for a reason....

    There is probably a very acute reason why your heart is feeling hesitant. Perhaps you should trust your instincts with this one.

    If you think even for a second she might leave again... She probably will, regardless of how awesome of a man you are. She seeks you for comfort and relies on you for stability, but as soon as the promise of something exciting appears, she will be out the door again.

    To me, she sounds like a women who doesnt know what she wants, fickle. I would not want to go into a seriously relationship with someone that clueless.

  • 5 years ago

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    Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I feel you are too good of a person to let her back into your life again. She is using you because you are the comfort zone. Once she regains strength in the comfort zone she will leave....woman and men do this all the time with their Mr./Mrs. reliable. Dont be Mr. Reliable anymore, if you want to help and support her...do it as a friend...but protect your heart...your obviously meant for somebody more worthy of you!

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  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like she is just using you to help her through this. Dont get attached because i think it will just happen again. She might even be using you to make her exhusband jealous to show that she never cared about him in the first place if she can get into dating so fast again.

  • Elo
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    She is going to hurt you again if you let her stick around. She may even end up going back to her husband. So avoid the drama and the hurt and just cut her loose. Even trying to be a frind to her may be too much at this point if you still have feelings for her. She needs to learn to pick herself up not let you do it for her.

  • 1 decade ago

    Sweetheart, I would adivse you to give her some space for her to see if she really wants you or if she on the rebound remember she left you for him, she knows your softspot and probably knows that you still loves her, and she can take advantge of you again, be careful and feel her out.

  • 1 decade ago

    rebound....she shouldn't mess with anybody right now

    be prepared

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