My husband and my son from a previous marriage are at war. My husband has been cold to my son for years?

Your husband does not respect and love your son from a previous marriage. He is also a violent bully who chooses to pick on people smaller than himself. It's time to make him your ex-husband and end the problem.

My husband and my son from a previous marriage are at war. My husband has been cold to my son for years?

Your husband needs to GROW UP. I don't know how old your son is, but there is NEVER a justification for putting your hands on someone. I am surprised they allowed him back in the house after the arrest.

Abuse is a cycle. This cycle has already begun. If your husband thinks it is okay to put hands on your son, it will not be long before he does it to you. He either needs to admit the problem and get anger counselling, or you need to end it now, before someone gets killed.

Your son will be your son forever, this man started with a 60% chance of leaving (divorce rate) and sounds like he is not the man of your dreams. The man of your dreams would understand your son is a child who needs guidance and love, not a wrestling match to the death. He would have respect for others, and protect his family from harm, not harm them.

There are so many good men out there that will treat you and your son the way you deserve. Don't stay with someone you know is not right.

First, I want to say I am so sorry you have to go through this. I feel that if your husband loved you, he would treat your son a lot better. This is going to effect your son as an adult. Your son might not think you love him that much if you stay with a man that treats him like that. You might want to write to Dr. Phil.

I hope things get better. I will pray for your family.

my mom had two boys before she met my dad and they say that it was rough because one of my brothers was very mean. they had their moments where they got physical. now its fine.

i think you need to have a talk with your husband. he should not treat your son like crap and be cold to him for years. and then to physically grab and wrestle your son on numerous occasions is not good. a serious conversation is what is needed. if he refuses to shape up i would say leave him. do you want to live this way for the rest of your life? after your son leaves the house he may never come back because of him. so you will lose your son.

As parents its our jobs to protect our children. If it has been going on for years get the heck out of the relationship. Its your job to protect yourself and your son. The longer you stay with your husband the worst I think it will be and most likely cause your son to become angry, and be left with some harsh things he will have to deal with as adult. Leave your husband, seeking counseling for yourself and your son. You BOTH deserve a lot better then a husband who thinks its ok to go after your son.

I wonder what your son is thinking about you since you allow this. For me, if my man doesn´t respect and treat my kids from another relationship, he has nothing to do with me either. It must be terrible for your son to realise that you´re letting him down because of an ignorant and bad behaving idiot! Sorry, but it pisses me of when children don´t get safety and support from their parents and especially when a new and a totally stranger comes in to the house. Whose side are you on?

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Good answer.

You can't be with someone who hates your child. Parents who choose a spouse over a child have serious problems. Especially if you see it as him causing the problems. I would leave him. My child comes first. End of subject.

If you do end up picking your spouse over your child you risk alienating that child forever. That is something hard for a child to forgive. I know many many of people who have cut their parents out of their lives for that very reason.

So you have to ask yourself. "Is my husband worth losing my child forever? Am I willing to take that chance?" If the answer is no. Then you must make the decision to leave.

Choose your son. You will never regret it.

My mother had a second husband like that....and now, even 14 years after I've moved out of her house our relationship has never been the same. She eventually divorced him (he really was a loser), and now is very lonely. Because our relationships are so broken, she really doesn't have me or my brother (or his children) in her life anymore.