BF still talking with ex girlfriend... advice?

Tell him that you're not comfortable with the little dates they have going on and that it makes you think that they're going out. I mean come on they're going out for lunch or dinner for some time now, plus they had really good chemistry back then.

I'd be worried too if my boyfriend started hanging out with ANY girl most especially his exgirlfriends that much because there is always that rekindling that might happen. I mean how much can they keep in contact? E-mails, phone text/calls, DINNERAND LUNCH dates!!!... who wouldn't be jealous with that sort of arrangement. He's spending too much time with her.

>>>!!!!Tell him that you love him and that you don't want him to ever go back to her and spend that much time with her.

MY ADVICE???

Don't keep it in if it's bothering you, it will only get worse. Ask him why you shouldn't be suspicious or bothered about this whole setup. Remember, this is a relationship, if something's going wrong then SAY SOMETHING what are you guys? STRANGERS OR SOMETHING?

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Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.

I've been on the other end of that....The EX GIRLFRIEND!! we dated for 4 years he was in and out of my life and just recently came back in after 3 years...and after a month of talking it all ended...even the friendship we kept after so many years (we have knowen each other for 14+ years) it hurts. Maybe you should try to ask him what feelings he has towards her now then when he did when they were together, even if they are just friends there are still feelings there because they are friends. They do have a past together but there is NOTHING wrong with staying friends with someone you have a long past with like this. It sounds like you dont have much trust in him and in the end if this all blows up you will be the one to get dumped because he has a longer past with her, even as friends...GOODLUCK

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Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her

That's too much interaction with an ex. Why are people always telling women to "just trust him"?

It's not even about trust.

It's about the man not respecting his current relationship.

How would HE feel if you did that?

When men ask the same question, they get told to be very suspicious.

But when women ask this question, everyone says that it's fine.

It's not okay.

Don't ever put him in the position of choosing between the two of you. If you trust him, this really shouldn't be an issue. Have you met this woman? Perhaps it's time the three of you have lunch together. Honestly, it's a good sign that he's mature enough to carry on a friendship with an ex-girlfriend. It shows he has respect for women and is a loyal person.

I believe that there isn't really that much to worry about. If they are still in contact after three years of breaking up, I would figure that 3 years would have been enough time for them to either get back together or accept the friendship.

If him talking to her doesn't physically affect your relationship, then don't make it a big deal. If he is still a good guy to you and spends more time with you, then try to overlook it. Just try to make sure you don't put him in a position where he has to choose you or the ex-girlfriend.

Thats wierd, im going through the exact same thing, though my current girlfriend is mad at me because im still talking to my ex and going out with her too after have been with my ex for 3 yrs..

To be honest with you, what gets me mad, or jealous of my current girl,(you in your case) is when she starts talking to another guy as a friend, it makes me wanna stop talking to my ex because theres a threat threatening my relationship! It sounds dumb but making him want what he cant have makes him want you more! Either that or try to become more attractive to him so that he won't even need to talk to his ex anymore because you'll provide him with everything he needs to forget his ex! Not to sound mean but his ex probably has something better that you dont(sorry) and he finds that attractive about her, so analyze whats making him go to her and make changes to attract him away from his ex!

Guys will always compare the 2 girls, make sure your on the dominant side. It must be stressful, im sorry your going through this. But massive attraction will magnetize him to you and away from his ex. So don't give him a reason to want to even talk or think about that ex. I know, I never thought my ex was attractive and I couldn't stand her until she made herself more confident, and changed her style, when she changed her attitude for the better, she just became more sexy than I ever thought! But even then it was too late, we already had broken up! Now I can't get away from her! I can't stress this enough, make yourself more sexy, make him feel like your too good for him! Then he'll be afraid to lose you. Even play hard to get, it'll drive him crazy! This will be a hard task but I believe you care enough to follow through. Good Luck!

All this keeping in touch with the ex thing always has bothered me. Pretending like they are friends. He should be more respectful of your feelings. Ask him to put himself in your place. How would he feel if you continued to "go on dates" with your ex. The key element here is that he still has feeling for her. He is hoping one day she will want him back and you'll be left saying what the hell just happened.

You need to INVITE both your boyfriend and this Ex to come over for lunch or dinner. Heck, you may like her!!

It will reduce jealous feelings.