What do I do if I just don't know who I really am even though I have searched myself constantly ?

Usually, the time you find something is when you stop looking for it. Relax, take a deep breath, and go where life takes you. Who says we ever figure ourselves out anyways? ;)

You should know that, especially during puberty, many people have same sex feelings. It is considered normal. It does not mean you are gay...merely having same sex feelings. You should also know that you will have personality changes...possibly into your twenties and maybe even into your thirties. Again, this is all normal. Trying to establish your sexual orientation during this period is like calling yourself a football fan before you've ever even seem the first game. Take your time. There's no rush. You are doing the right thing by asking questions. I would recommend that you speak with your parents if you think they will be supportive of you. You know them better than anyone else. If you don't feel comfortable speaking to your parents...speak with your family doctor. He should be able to address your concerns...if he doesn't or can't, he will refer you to someone who can. You should also have the option of your school counselor. Doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists and school counselors should be confidential. Ask if you're not sure. Your sexual orientation shouldn't overly concern you...don't stress about it. You are what you are...if you're heterosexual, then you're heterosexual...if you're bisexual, then you're bisexual...and, if you're gay, then you're gay. You sexual orientation/identity is not an abnormality nor a disease...it's just your sexual inclination. Again, it's not something to get stressed about. Take your time and enjoy yourself, you're just beginning a wonderful journey through life...don't rush it. You will look back over these years with fondness...just relax.

Hmm.

Its been my experience that most people who say "I don't know who I really am even though I've been searching constantly" -- actually DO, deep down inside, know who they are, they just don't like the answer they keep coming up with. So they keep looking for a different answer.

You know what the definition of insanity is, don't you -- "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result."

Its called "denial".

Find someone who you love and makes you happy, whether they be girl or boy and cherish them. If they make you happy let yourself be happy and go with it whatever it is