What will happen if you discovered that your husband cannot father a child?

I will not be happy with man in question, because it is better for him to have inform me, so as to prepare myself either to continue or discontinue with the marriage. Nevertheless, since there is genuine love in the marriage, I will forgive and suggest for adoption while prayer will be going on simultaneously.

It depends on when he discovered that he could not father children. If he knew before getting married and did not share that important information, she should divorce him now. That is a very big detail to leave out intentionally and would show that he is not above being dishonest to get what he wants without regard to her feelings.

If it is after they got married, then it depends on how important having his biological children is to her. There are many means of having children. If she wants to experience pregnancy, then look into a sperm donor. If she just wants kids, then adoption would be the next bext step.

IF, and that is a big IF, he really didnt know about this problem before marriage, then most likely she would remain in the marriage. If not, then you have bigger problems than fertility.

The rulings of Social services in the UK and US are different, so I can't comment on that. But to answer your question - No, I don't think that. But yes, I believe many do weather then want to admit to it or not. And its not just the thinking about the parents, but the kids in foster care too! When people hear or read the word "foster" - they automatically associate that person with abuse, neglect, addiction, general BADNESS. That's the nature of the beast. As someone that grew up in foster care, I know first hand how it feels to be introduced as someones "foster child". I can tell you, these words always made me feel like a complete parasite. The common reaction is pity, careful wording, and caution. Very few times was I known as just "Tara" - without any connections to social services. I've been out of foster care for 3 yrs now, and i'm STILL thought of as that by those who i grew up with, but it's gradually fading (thankfully). But seriously, I'm reading your question, and i'm thinking... why does this sound like it's "all about her?" Is your reputation and self-esteem more important then getting your kids back?? Or the real needs of your daughter (who is the real victim). Your comments almost passively dismiss your Ex-'s actions, and puts the burden of excuses on the courts, and the blame on your daughters "issues". I'm not getting the whole bedroom situation either.. but it is what it is. But then you say "I asked for it to be a gradual return" -- which makes zero sense to me. What part of her coming home don't you like? She either comes home -- or she doesn't. There is no "half way" or partial coming home. It is or it isnt. Pick one. Social services in ANY country is far from perfect - but it's getting much better, and it's almost always in the best interest of the child when action is taken. If your truly interested in recovering your children, I suggest working closely with social services, do as the courts ask, and show some love and determination. If this is asking for too much, then perhaps your children are better left in care. No child wants to be felt like they are a burden. And my concern is that your words say exactly this. Now I may be off-base, but I think I am reading between the lines very well. Your NOT the victim here. And no, you won't be getting compassion from me either.

Personally, I would jump for joy but I've never wanted children.

I suppose other women would consider this a betrayal of trust. Not the fact that he can't have children but the hiding of this information. There is nothing shameful or disgusting about being infertile (either by natural or medical means) so why hide it from your wife whom you love.

If he knew it all and had kept it from me i will hardly trust him again.

It is bad- in my opinion- to let her go through the medical tests, stress of wanting so badly a baby if you are the one who has a problem.

Now, sit her down and be sincere. Then, if she can take it you'll decide together the best way to act, otherwise, she might leave.

Still it's always better to say the truth. She might surprise you.

Be brave and simply say the truth; you haven't chosen your incapacity to father a child, have you?

Well, my husband and I don't want children so if either of us were infertile I'd jump for joy a thte thought of never having to worry about contraception.

BUT regardless of if I wanted children or not, if he knew and didn't tell me and it's only that I stumbled over it I would be extremely angry and saddened that he lied to me and kept something completely secret, something so huge.

I would be a little mad at first but then look at other options to conceive. Its not the end of the world there are so many unwanted children out there looking for a loving home. Are you the man in this case? just wondering

honestly i would be upset that he couldn't trust me enough to tell me in the first place. but then i would get over it and think about all the other options we have. there are children all over this world without parents and that need a good home.

Wow...what a question. If the wife was unaware...I think it is grounds for annulment of the marriage. Good luck!

Well I would have an insemination or go for an adoption and understand his situation. It must be stressful for his as well well as for her. Switch it around and understand. This can be worked out.