Only for guys....?

Only cruel boys and players intentionally hurt women. A real man doesn't use a woman's heart as a punching bag. So why do women get hurt? Most of the time it's because despite all the warning signs of the coming breakup women still hang on and try to "make it work."

Imagine holding a small cactus in your hand. No pot, just the plant itself. You think it's about to fall out of your hand, so what do you do? Instinctively you tighten your grip on it so as not to lose it. What's the result of that? Yep, you're still holding on but it hurts doesn't it? Something is trying to take it from you, so what do you do? Tighten your grip even more.

What's the pain like now? And the more you feel it slipping away the more you tighten your grip.

Doesn't make much sense does it? But that's what women (and some guys) do all the time. The ironic thing is they blame the cactus for hurting them. The best way to hold onto something you really want to keep is....loosely. You let it sit in the palm of your hand. If it starts to leave--you let it! I realize this seem counterproductive, but it works. It may be gone for a while, but that's only a test. If he/she cares, they will come back and you won't have to play these childish games.

Like I said, players aren't worth trying to hold onto in the first place. If they leave, you're better off. That way they can go on to break someone else's heart instead of your's.

Well speaking from a guys view point we dont honestly try to hurt you. Alot of times there is misunderstandings because the communications is not fully implemented

we dont think it hurts you. We dont really care. Relationships to us dont really matter so we might love you really but then the next minute we dont and we break up with you.