What am I doing wrong? (ladies point of view please)?

Well it's difficult to know as an outsider what you may have done wrong, exactly. What might be more important, though, is a wrong approach.

Evaluate your approach to dating. What are you looking for? A mate? Sex? A long-term relationship?

Whatever you're looking for, try to put it on hold. For now you just want to "get your feet wet." This means taking it slow. It means meeting a woman for coffee, not a romantic dinner. It means trying to have more female friendships with no expectations at all. If you're shy at all or find it awkward to talk to women, challenge yourself to strike up conversations with your hair stylist, dental hygienist, bank teller, grocery store clerk, etc.

The important thing is not to put pressure on the woman/women you're interested in, and also don't put pressure on yourself. Feel good about successful conversations without feeling the need to take it to the next level right away.

P.S. It's low-key, so don't worry if you don't think the woman is your type. You're just getting practice, and you're keeping it casual enough that you don't have to worry about leading her on.

Secondly, show that you're interested. Women will flirt with you, but they probably won't ask you out. They want to be pursued, so you have to pursue them. In our culture, because you're a man, it's usually up to you to initiate. Be brave. Go outside your comfort zone. If you get turned down a lot, try not to take it too personally, and try to learn from your mistakes. Yahoo Answers is not likely to diagnose what's wrong with your technique, but asking out lots and lots of women is guaranteed to.

Thirdly, don't put a lot of stake on "firsts." I was a late bloomer too, and so I didn't tell my boyfriend until several days after our first kiss that it was my FIRST kiss, and that he was my first boyfriend. I'm glad I didn't say something up front, it was much better to be spontaneous and go with the flow, and it didn't put any pressure on him.

And finally, get out there! You can't expect to sit at home and get dates. If bar-hopping is not where you want to meet women, go to the gym. Audit a class at your community college. Volunteer doing something with kids or babies. Take yoga if you feel edgy. There are lots of places where it is very easy to meet women without making it feel contrived. I wish you the best of luck!

How do you get to know the 2 ladies? Well, be confident in yourself. Although you are going to be 26yr old this year, it doesnt mean its the end of the world right?

Now is the age to build your career. You will looked attractive and even gain more confident when you develop your career. Dont rush into relationship just because you want to be in.

There will be miss right on your way.. just matters of time.

If you are a girl, at the age of 26 with no boyfriend, people will think this ladies must be those problematics type or weirdo.

You are a guy, and time to build your career path, growing stage. You may just meet someone better and prettier than those 2 ladies stood you up.

Hi,

Nothing is wrong with you! You are just fine. Just down on your luck and I know you said you don't want to hear it but yes you do have to keep trying. I do have a suggestion in that regard, you see, my hubby and I met on a website for matching and I am not kidding you I am gorgeous and not even fat!! No, not full of myself but I was the most popular girl in school and I mean really gorgeous I think I Intimidated most men it was mostly lonely for me as I never really partied much. I know its not about me I am just trying to show you that its normal to think the way that you are, I use to think the same thing! and that hot women want to know they are hot and they want you to say it with a big smile when you see one you like.

Its a cue not to be shy or feel insecure about yourself. You sound more of the serious type but a few dating tips can sure cure that and I know you can find some with google lol.

I think that you are as attractive as you think you are I can tell you have compared yourself to other guys... Just join those match up websites because sometimes love needs a little help. Our 4th year anniversary is coming up and we already have the cutest baby boy ever! He was/is a tech support. So I figure he was also more of the reserved type also. I'm just lucky he didn't marry sooner! Maybe your special someone is waiting for you the same way!

If you don't want to sign up for website (which is a lot of fun) you can join a gym (never harm in that) or a community class of some kind or even a course you have been wanting to do, something that gets you out of the house you know to get you out there! This will take your mind of everything and you might even meet someone in the process. If you believe in God there is no harm in praying about it either (I did). I think my problem was that I didn't want to get hurt so it took me to find that one person to take the leap.

When you finally meet someone who you would like to ask out make a lot of eye contact with her and smile a lot and make your first time going out something light and casual like coffee or ice-cream and a walk. People want to be comfortable first.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You are as you say attractive. I believe that, be gentle with yourself. Take your time.

Good luck.

Well, it is very difficult to say what if anything is wrong. Are you attracted to the wrong kind of women? Are you really as attractive as you think, both physically and personality wise? I am inclined to think that if you have no glaring faults that you are going after the wrong kind of women, but it is just a guess. It is hard to judge by just the few paragraphs you wrote. Wish I could offer better advice! ♥

Well, do you know what you want in a woman? No seriously, make a list of qualities that you find attractive and want in a relationship. Then try and find that woman who meets some of those expectations (not everyone will meet them all). And from what you wrote, you need to lighten up alittle, you come off as pretty intense. Although you may not want to hear this, but please do keep trying.

i m 22 and also never been a relationship. men say im beautiful, comparable to angelina jolie...but its like they r afraid of me. i come from a very rich family so i do understand their fears...men just stare at me and its like they expect me to tell them go ahead ask me out...its just im too old fashioned and i want a guy to figure that out and ask me and not wait till i approve first...i need bold men..

all the men that ask me r uneducated construction workers that barely speak english...

btw i know its hard for a man but its not a bad thing being a virgin...people respect u so much more that u have kept urself and u not a wh0re, i mean its a good thing..just thank God for the heartbreaks he has saved u from having...relationships sometimes can b really painful...

u have a clean heart and less to worry about..be happy

hhmm wow that's a problem isn't it... you come off a little strong... where are you picking these girls up... maybe you should try a different spot... ie: library, coffee shop, parties... uuhh but try to stay away from places with alcohol because the girls that you find there are not really looking for a relationship... and don't try to get so serious so fast... try to just hang out with a group of friends... ask her to a party your friend is throwing... anyway hope that helped a little... good luck hun...

maybe try a professional dating service where you can be matched with people a lot more like you.. and ladies who are also serious about wanting a relationship rather than stringing guys along...

hire 40 year old virgin... I'm not taking the mickey.. it;s a funny movie and you might get some good tips!

You know girls by chat room huh? Maybe they found it dangerous to make a date like that. Actually you should change the way you know all these girls. You can go to the pub,fitness centre or by friend recommend. If you dislike, you can just be a friend ,more & more friend - the more people you know the bigger relationship you have

well perhaps your aiming for the wrong type of girls??? I mean I would need to know what you say to women how do you approach them? and so on...well I suggest you compliment women (mean it dont just say it to say it), treat them right, and just keep your head up you will find the right one soon enough and when you do you'll obviously appreciate her. Hope everything works out for you :)