I'm the mother of a 17 year old son. My second husband of 2 years told me he wants children. What should I do?

Here's my 2 cents worth on both sides of the fence. I was 15 years old when my mother got pregnant from her second husband. I was mortified that my mother could be pregnant. I thought it was gross, yes I have two younger brothers, but.... She wasn't suppose to be getting pregnant at her age, she's a mom. That's is some of the stupid stuff I thought at first. After being angry with her and realizing I wasn't the center of the universe any more (I was the only girl) it was ok, until I found out it was going to be a girl. But, I got over it. The only drag even today, is there so much age difference between us that I really don't know her. I had moved out and went to school when she was about 6 months old. I would come for holidays and get to play big sister. She had a rough time always being compared to me, because we are girls, she should be doing things like me. That was unfair on parents part, I think it pushed a wedge.

On the body part, you maybe high risk but things should be alright. Stay in contact with the Doctor and get regular check up. I think all the planning in the world is never going to make a perfect time. Sounds like the if you try now the baby would be born about the time he moves on any ways. Just ask yourself is the reason I want a baby is because my child is moving out of the house and it will be empty? Keep his room if you can so he won't feel to kicked out, ya know?

After 35 your risk for borth defects increases dramatically, so if you agree with having another baby, don't wait. There is nothing that you do with your son now that has to change because of a baby. Babys are resilient and they adapt to your home. You don't change your home to adapt to them. My boys are 5 years apart, and while that is much closer in age than yours, my youngest still had to go along with the things I already had established with my oldest. I think you have spent a lot of years just you and your son and you feel guilty as if you'd be replacing him. That's impossible. Your relationship with each child is unique and special for many different reasons. Maybe with your oldest its special because he;s beenmore than your son. You've been through hard times and make it back to good ones. Your crutch, strength and pal. No reason for that to be altered. Now you're in a happier relationship and thinking of making a new life that represents the love the two of you share. That will be a different relationship. too. This has to be something you completely want to do and not something you feel obligated to do. If you're not o.k. with it. Don't do it. Starting over at 39 when your child is almost grown, will be hard. For you emotionally, physically, and possibly even on your relationship. Follow your heart. Your first instinct is usually right.

Either way when the baby comes the son will have moved out. I would get the ok, because you never know how long TTC will take. You could be lucky and get pregnant right away or it may take up to a year. I would say go for it! You dont have anything to lose!

Go for it, Mom! You have enough love in your soul for more than one child! ;o)

Your son is going to be leaving soon...

Do it NOW! Don't wait! It's better the second time around! I am raising my 25 year old son's children. And for women our age (I'm 44), 7 months is seven months that we can't afford to waste!

If you really want to have another baby you should start asap. Fertility starts declining with age and my coworkers dr told her that she may have a hard time ttc at age 36. So, happy baby making :)

Oh, start now hon - you're living on borrowed eggs as it is... lol. Good luck, and baby dust to you.

BTW, I have a 16 year old, but I'm 47, so more power to you for still having the energy to deal with babies!

Baby dust coming your way!

I'd go for it now, if you want children. You never know how long it will take to get pregnant, and your son will be just fine.

Kids get siblings all the time. Good luck!

Your son is old enough to handle you starting another family, he's almost at the stage where he's starting his own life.

your son is 17- he is not a baby anymore and can handle you being pregnant. by the time you would have the baby he would be off to college. if you want a baby go for it!!

I think you should try now and BTW, your son is 17, he is old enough to realize what is going on and not be jelous. It is fine.