Help ! I don't think i will ever find a boyfriend !?

DON'T get married to a woman to make your mom happy!! You will just make yourself miserable and ensure that you will never get a boyfriend.

You don't say where you live; there are cities with large asian populations where you might have a greater chance of finding the kind of guy you are looking for. You are still young, you don't have to have a relationship by the age of 25.

Here's a link to the Gay Asian Pacific Alliance. It's based in San Francisco.

http://www.gapa.org/

Here's another one for a gay Asian group in Vancouver.

http://www.longyangclub.org/vancouver/intro.html

Hope these help!

Edit: To the answerer below who found himself in the wrong 'room' and decided to post the usual laundry list of gay-bashing bible citations and religious platitudes:

Next time you find yourself if the 'wrong room', do what you would do if you walked into the wrong restroom - just turn around and run out as fast as you can without saying anything.

Do what feels right to you. Learn how to not need anyone, but yourself. Realize that you do not need another person in your life to be happy. If you don't rush things it will come more naturally. I am a woman and I'm not gay, but isn't this the same thing everyone goes through. Maybe you should not set your expectations so high. Don't be so shallow that you can't look past the way someone looks. Everyone has flaws, you will never find someone who looks or is perfect. Go with the flow and chill out, it'll happen sooner or later.. Don't worry be happy.

I was married for 14 years for the wrong reasons and it is hell to recover from.That is not your solution.I have a problem finding guys because I am too masculine.So I can identify with your situation.I like effeminate and masculine guys.I like all kinds of guys.But finding that one special guy is proving to be impossible for me.I have been on the edge of suicide because it seems hopeless.I wish like hell I had a simple formula to give you that solves your delema.But there isnt one.And my advise to you would be to make friends and get it off your mind for a while as the wheels of time bring happiness closer to you.I have tried to find those effeminate Asian guys who like masculine guys,but they are not as plentiful as it would seem.I hope for your happiness Sweetie,and that you get what you want in life.

Hugs!

My best friend has the same situation

but she has a smart plan

First ask yourself:

Who am i most attracted too

A. a geek

B. a jock

C. Asain boys

or what ever else you like

Then when you get your answer make sure what ever group of guys you picked you make sure they notice you

and if you ever get to know one of them, this is GOOD!

Make yourself availible but not tooooo availible.

O yeah since you are mostly thinking about physical...

you should also pic one that is emotional too.

i mean it is hard to have a physical relationship with someone you dont even really have feelings for

so make sure you get a boy friend you have both feelings for

I understand ur problem;

I would advice u to use a special site to meet guys u like.

I do use that site, for it's international and there are many Asian gays on.

I'm sure u'll find someone there and be happy.

You lose nothing to try.

Here u are:

Dude, I'm only addressing the whole marriage thing. Please please don't marry a woman just to please your mom. Its not fair to her to be married to someone who isn't into her. And it's not fair to you to conform for your mom. As far as the boyfriend thing, just go be a whore. You're young, you'll get in a serious relationship when the time is right. Don't worry so much, go enjoy your life.

Take your time. It will happen when it does. Rush it and you will end up unhappy and with someone who either you don't want to be with or they don't want to be with you.

Just hang out and be yourself. Someone will come along, until then make yourself comfortable in your own skin.

Making yourself and a "wife" miserable to make your mom happy??? BAD JUJU.

Step 1:find someone in ur school that seems really hot

Step 2:Ask him out

Step3:Make out with him every now and then.

Easy as that.

You'd be very unhappy married to a woman.

I'd rather be single.

And give it some time, you're thinking way to much about it... and relationships aren't even that great as you think they are.

are you in MN? because if you are, suit up and we can go cruisn together cuz i dont think i'll ever find a gf at this rate. =p i got my heart...not broken, just sorta ripped to shreds, and at this point, i dont even want to find anyone now. idk.

but hey, realize this, i remember thinking to myself 'no cute fem lesbian is ever going to date me because im not butch at all, and besides, there aren't in lesbians in my town' and then out of the blue i met this cute pretty fem lesbian who was in the town next to mine and told me she liked me after knowing each other a few weeks....the downside to this story is, well that girl is my ex now, but whatever. focus on the upside right? =p love sucks

and do not marry a girl just to please your mom! its not fair to you, its not fair to the girl, and you're just lying to your mom and letting her take the easy way out, if she cares about you, then over time she will learn to accept and love you just the way you are.