Do your in-laws remember your Birthday?

Yeah. That's kinda tacky. How hard is it to write something like that down anyway?

I always remember my in-laws birthday - the only way they remember mine is because my better half gets all my hints in enough time to remember on his own and then get the message back to them.

They've all just skipped it before. Last year, when my mother in law's birthday came around - I didn't say anything to her all day until she finally said "Didn't you know today is my birthday?". I said, "Aw man! I totally forgot!!". She looked all butt hurt until I pulled the card out and said "How could I forget, you're my family!!" ... we'll see what happens when my b-day rolls around again.

My in-laws only "remember" my bday if my husband is in... if hes out to sea, they dont even call. I guess they do it to impress him or something, but me by myself doesnt count. Im the one who does ALL of their gifts too. Birthday, anniversaries, I do easter baskets for them, Mothers and Fathers Day..... But you know, they ALWAYS get a fleece blanket anyway, and I have too many of those so they can keep their crappy gift, right!

My in-laws remembered my birthday this year and my husband forgot. Am I angry? Not really, this way I can stay 29 forever.

Unfortunately, it is not just in laws. The in laws, if they forget everyone birthday, then accept it as their lack of concern for birthdays. Have sympathy for your husband that he never felt how great if feels for parents to make a big deal out of a birthday. You are going to have to reframe his mindset and pretty much tell him IT IS a big deal and stop negating your feelings toward a significant event. As far as the in laws cease getting them anything or remembering their birthday. They will get the message when the one person who remembers them cease that action. Do not resume giving to them, but encourage your husband to celebrate this significant event. Children in the home should not have to go through what you are going through now or what your husband had to go through growing up. Birthdays ARE a BIG DEAL no matter how old you are!!

Yes they remember my birthday and I am the one responsible for remembering theirs. They have four kids and I am the one that organizes them all and reminds them about their upcoming birthdays and I throw the party. So I understand that it hurts your feelings that they don't remember yours.

No my in laws don't acknowledge my birthday and I sure don't encourage them. That sort of thing breeds familiarity and before you know it you are up to your knees in contempt. I maintain a loose casual association with them, I don't listen to them and they have stopped talking to me.

HELL NO I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 8 YEARS THEY HAVE NEVER REMEBERD MINE ! THEY CANT EVEN REMEMBER THERE GRANDCHILDRENS HALF THE TIME .. AT FIRST I WAS UPSET BUT NOW I DONT CARE I DONT EVEN CALL THEM NO MORE ON THERES NOR DOES MY HUSBAND HE HAS SIDED WITH ME ON THIS ONE IF THEY CANT EVEN REMEBER THEIR OWN GRANDCHILDRENS THEN WHY WASTE OUR TIME THEY ARE NOT THAT OLD (50) SO THAT CANT USE THE OLD AGE CRAP LACK OF MEMORY ! SO JUST DONT EVEN WORRY WITH THERE BDAY ! GOOD LUCK

so stop remembering theirs--if they have a brain in their head they will take the hint

sorry for you. in my family we all remember each othe birth day, marriage annversary, we always try to find out happiness in small small things. may be in you family it is not so important, so do not make it an issue, you do not forget their birth day & marriage anniversary, you be happy doing small but good things, you are not expected what others are doing for you. you do it, you feel happy, you sing, feel happy, dance and feel pleasure. At leat do not make your life unhappy by spoiling your happiness for others faults.

yes....i also have been in such a situation....they remember but they wantingly pretend to forget to hurt u...so give them a dose of their own medicine...pretend as u also dunt remember...n if by any chance ur husband forgets their b'day dunt even think of remindin him...ok