Is it rude to add someone as a contact without their prior permisson?

Question

When I come across someone who is obviously knowlegeable and helpful, I like to add them so I can easily continue to learn from them.  When it's possible, I ask their permission and if they don't tell me it's ok, I don't add them, nor do I take it personally.

The problem is that some people don't allow email or IM, so it's impossible for me to ask their permission.  In a few such cases, I just added them and hoped it would be ok.  Is that acceptable, or was I being rude?

iluvbananaicecream · Accepted Answer

It's good that you ask before adding if possible.
It is okay to add them even if they don't allow email or IM, because you just want to access their questions, because you find them good, right? You're not doing anything to invade their privacy or something, so I guess they can understand.

wyomugs · Answer

While it's nice to ask, it's not necessary, nor is it rude to not ask first, in this instance.

Sometimes, if someone whom I haven't "seen" answering or posting questions, adds me as a contact... or they are new to YA... I will not necessarily "return the favor."  I might add them later to my contacts, but I'll let them add me as theirs.

I don't understand why some people do not allow emailing.  What's the harm?  If I don't care for what the person writes, I ignore it.  If I do find their email interesting, then, hey... maybe I've just found a new YA friend!


Have a polite day.

Jenn · Answer

I don't believe it's rude to add someone as a contact if you didn't ask their permission.  Heck, I just added you without asking.  :-)  I don't understand why anyone would be offended.  I'd think they would be flattered that you thought enough of them to add them in the first place.  Just my opinion.

Cekker Kwann · Answer

If they have a problemo with you adding them, they know how to let you tell you so. If not, they need to just get over it........ But, it's good if you can contact the person (Provided they accept email) and make an intorduction and a small blerp as to why you want to add them....

robynbiker · Answer

No i dot think its rude, i think it a compliment. I have about 3 people on my  list. and its quite nice.
I dont concider i have the answers, just that i guess i have an opinion that is likeable to some lol

Anonymous · Answer

It's tottaly accepted , I can't see why people who  wouldnt want you as a contact. Ussually people like it when people add them . And hey , It's only yahoo answers .

Cheers!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm actually flattered when people add me as a contact.... I think it's not rude at all.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't do anyone any harm to add them- it's just Yahoo Answers. It's part of the deal.

xx. · Answer

No you don't need to... it's too much of a hassle. Others are not obliged to add you so if they don't want to see your starred questions and whatnot, they just don't add you.

special-chemical-x · Answer

you were being rude unless they gave their expressed written consent

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